Am I in the wrong at work?

Im currently in my second pregnancy but with twins, we are 17 weeks along as of today. I work full time as a licensed veterinary technician, therefore its a very physically involved job. Restraining pets of all sizes, handling anesthesia, working in radiology, handling medical notes, always on your feet, seeing emergencies throughout the day, 10-12 hour shifts 4 days a week, fast paced environment, handling medications, and so much more. Ive been in this field since I was 14 so Im very used to the requirements to this job. I have never had a problem with performing my duties. Even with my first pregnancy with a singleton baby, I pushed to keep going and keep working until 3 days before I gave birth. Im also a full time mom to a 3 year old, and thankfully am able to take our daughter to my parents house for daycare while we are away at work. When Im at work, recently I have noticed that I have become out of breath faster than I did with my singleton pregnancy and more exhausted by the end of my 10-12 hour shift. I lose my train of thought occasionally because Im doing so much sometimes, which is probably just "baby brain". Im becoming larger faster in my abdomen with being pregnant with twins so there have been a lot of things that I have had to take it easy on. The issue Im wanting to discuss is my work place. To put into perspective, my manager has never had children and has decided to have surgery last year to ensure she never has kids. Im cool with that, its not my decision or my place to dictate how she lives her life. Shes still young, Id say in her late 30s however, so we still get along decently. During this pregnancy, she has made it apparent to tell me that Im working slower than usual and would like me to pick up the pace. Shes also discussed with me that its been a problem with other employees, and seems like herself as well, that I dont do some of the physical activities that are required and has been a problem that I have asked other employees to help me with those activites. I get backlash on having baby brain too, which is obviously something I cant prevent from doing. Im beginning to feel like this is almost a discrimination against me being pregnant. Ive explained to my manager that I cant do a lot of the physical requirements but I also dont have any restrictions from my doctor, I was told by my doctor to not do things that are uncomfortable and stay safe with what I am doing. No doctors note indicating that as well. I feel like Im being judged for not being able to perform at the same rate I could before getting pregnant. There are only 5 or 6 other moms in my workplace, but I am the only one that has been pregnant with twins. I feel like I get a lot of judement from my manager because shes never experienced pregnancy. Im expected to continue to work when Im sick. Im expected to continue with my physical requirements because I dont have a doctors note. I feel like Im getting pin pointed out because Im the only pregnant one and have been the only pregnant employee at this hospital since they opened the business 4 years ago. I certainly dont feel comfortable risking my health or my unborn childrens health just to meet the requirements at work. I feel like there are plenty of other employees that are more capable of handling the physical things I cant and it shouldnt be a problem with me asking for help where I cant step in, even if it is still "early in the pregnancy". (I should mention I am technically half way into my pregnancy because I am having multiples) Im not sure how to discuss this with my manager, and/or the HR department. Am I wrong for feeling this way? *Yes I live in the United States and I have looked into my state laws for working pregnant women, but it doesnt give a lot of light on this situation specifically. Im just looking for advice from other people and see their thoughts on this is.

Guys I ducked up with an F

So I started working at a new place and my goal was to be quiet and just do my job. I failed. I’m just so chatty and I love talking to new people. Well the job made me lose 20 pounds and my butt looks better than ever so I started getting a lot of ATTENTION. And at first it was harmless flirting. I even told my husband about it and he just laughed and said watch it. Fast forward to now, a guy at work didn’t take rejection the best and he and his buddies are all talking about me and now I wanna go back to being invisible but I can’t. Did I majorly fuck up? How can I go back to being invisible and people taking me seriously again? Idk why I always do this!!! I just wanna go to work and go home.

Educators if you don’t get your paid planning time are you doing it?

I work at a child care centre. We run a very progressive program. I’m talking educations must keep a journal and reflections, 20 hours of PD a year (no PD days or paid time), must document each child’s learning in a portfolio, documentation panels on the walls, minima of 3 activities per day, daily photos and emails sent home, and of course daily logs for eating, sleeping, toileting ect… each class is meant to get 1 hour per week for planning (this includes documenting and portfolios) I have had maybe 2hrs planning in 3 months and I’ve just stopped doing the planning and documentation. Obviously now in I’m shit be and have a meeting with management next week. How do I tell them respectfully that I’m not doing all that extra work without time during the work day? I feel like this is standard ya? No prep no programming or journals?? Am I the problem?

Waiting to see if I’ll be fired…

So yesterday I was able to look at my paycheck and let’s just say $800+ got garnished. Was told I only worked 21 hours. I had no clue why until I texted my big boss. She said I went over my PTO (but I still got paid for it, until this paycheck) and I had no clue because online it shows I STILL HAVE 47 hours of PTO left. 😭😡My son and I have been sick a lot. It goes back and forth between us. That’s why I use PTO. Like fever, throwing up , etc. he can’t go to school and why would anyone want someone to work sick like that?!? She’s coming in the office today to speak with me about in her words “the problem is with your PTO and how upside down you are with your time off”. So I’m sitting here wondering if I’m going to be let go. I just want to get this talk over with. If I’m not fired, I guess I’m just gonna come to work sick as a dog and get people sick. Doesn’t make sense to me.

In Dire Need Of Advice

I started working at this factory that my spouse works at. It seemed like a great idea! Amazing pay(especially combined!), Same schedule after training, taking breaks together, ya know, all that. Well, I was put in the department that has the most walk outs and I quickly learned why. There are eight lines of machines with six indicators each that each beep a different tune when there's something wrong and there are two robots that each beep a song as they pass by you and the machines are so loud that you have to scream at people next to you. On top of that you need to dress up in something similar to a hazmat suit and the humidity is controlled at -20 so you get nosebleeds and cotton mouth. There is a very long list of issues but these are the worst parts to meThe work itself is easy enough but the environment is absolutely horrible. I want to quit to be honest. I hate it so much that I dread going to work on Monday. On top of that I'm going to be in training for two months and with my husband and I working opposite shifts on opposite days of the week, I won't be seeing him except for bedtime until my training is over either and it's already taking a toll on me. I feel so alone and distant from him. But I feel like I need to push through. We have plans! We were gonna make a lot of money together! We were gonna work the same schedule!!! That all sounds so good until I remember where I'm returning to...I'm thinking of finding somewhere else to work but I'm not sure I can find another place that pays this well. What should I do? I haven't told my husband... I don't want to disappoint him...

Rejected my bosses Instagram friend request

Okay so my boss added me to instagram and I clicked decline to the friend request but it keeps popping up again later. Does that mean she hasrequested to follow me again? If so it’s happened like 5 times and I keep hitting decline and it’s getting awkward like wtf. I do have some work friends on Instagram and our boss does follow pretty much everyone but quite frankly I hate my boss and I’ve heard her use private instagram posts against other employees. For example she commented that another girl has time to post photos of her dog but can’t maintain a professional account (which is not something our field of work requires she just likes the free advertising) I’m not going to bring it up but it’s just so awkward especially if she is just requesting over and over. Maybe she doesn’t realize I’ve declined.

Would you quit your job?

So I work at a hospital, I’m a STNA and am PRN ever since I started I was fine with anxiety etc. Then I had my first shift working with someone who was mean/disrespectful towards me for no reason. Ever sense then, even if I’m not working with them, I get terrible anxiety. I’m only 18 and haven’t experienced bad anxiety like this until now, when I know I work, I think about it for days and it’s all I will think about, keeping me anxious all day. Today I worked, I’m so anxious ever since I left because of the 2 workers who make me nervous. When this happens the anxiety takes hours to go away, even days, and I have no idea what to do. I honestly don’t even know if I want to keep the job because of how it’s been on my mental health, I’ve had two jobs in healthcare before this and have never been nervous or anxious to work. My heart rate has been so high since I left and I am so tense and nervous. What would you do in this situation?

Hostile work environment?

I’ve worked at my job for over 5 years and have maybe called out once or twice, ever…and never ever have I lied about being sick or anything for that matter. I even worked with covid (unknowingly) because no one would cover my shift. Well 3 hours before my shift this Saturday, I started feeling really gnarly and checked my temp and I had a fever of 102. I texted my manager and let her know I had a fever and felt like a truck hit me so wasn’t sure what to do. I wanted the shift (I picked it up) but I could hardly move my body and had the chills. She replied and said if I couldn’t get it covered I had to come in. I was honestly shocked, not at her lack of empathy but that she would risk me exposing the public and other employees. She didn’t offer to help me try and get it covered or say she hoped I get better or please try to work, nothing. She showed zero emotion and I bartended all night sick as a dog!! One of my customers gave me his jacket because I was shivering and in the morning I get text messages that the bar wasn’t clean enough. I explained I was sick and was offered zero sympathy, he only went on describing how bad the bar looked. I’m not sure what to do but I won’t tolerate this. I felt like absolute death and people who said they couldnt cover me were there drinking!! They made me come in sick AF PLUS they sat on the patio all night drinking with their crying baby running around. So so stupid and disrespectful. At least have the decency to go hang out somewhere else!

Ex boss

So my boss is leaving the business after years of hard work. I thought it was a nice idea to arrange a leaving meal. I phoned a lot of restaurants to decide where to go & who would accommodate a large party & decided to go with a local family run restaurant & all expenses paid for. My ex boss has been telling my employees he won’t be attending because I’ve chosen a sh*t hole of a restaurant. I’m really upset by this & am going to cancel. It was supposed to be a nice gesture but he’s been laughing about it behind my back. Keen to see how others would respond to this situation

Tax question

I usually file under turbo tax and I made around 28,000 this year , last year I received $1900 but this year it says $80 back . Nothings changed . I don’t have any dependents and I always file standard and I don’t receive EBT or SSI. Why is it so low ? I understand this year was going to be different with taxes but I pretty much owed as much taxes as I made ? Where could I have gone wrong?

Uncomfortable at work

I had issues with a guy sexually harassing me at work. He started off cool, days later he started talking about my butt, then touched at one point. I told the boss after he tried busting into the door at a shaq that I’m in alone at night. Now I’m paranoid and on guard 24/7 that he’s gonna pull up and retaliate. On top of that a new guy was hired, and he’s already giving me weird vibes. Talking my head off, giving me weird things. He clocked out one night, 20min later he pulled up back to work to give me a knife… im so over it. I feel like I’m too much of a people pleaser and scared to be mean. What do I do? Should I be a little more mean?

Working mom

I’ve been with my company for 8 years. I am also 7 months pregnant but I decided to ask for a raise. When I followed up they told me they rather wait until I come back from maternity leave. I honestly don’t know how to respond to that. I feel like my maternity leave shouldn’t have anything to do with my work. I know I have 2 and half months left but I do work hard. I honestly am so angry and have no idea how to respond to that…. Any advice would help Thanks!

Discouraged starting a new job?

Does anyone else just Always get discouraged on the first day or even the first couple of week/ of starting a new job? I just started a new job working for DoorDash on their support team, and it’s just a bit complex. Yesterday, they had us handle independent cases on our own, and I had major anxiety and didn’t know what I was doing at all. I know this feeling is common , but I just want it to subside or go away. Quitting isn’t really an option for me even if I really wanted to. This job requires me to learn about 10 different systems. And I’m sure it’ll click with me over time but right now it’s just so discouraging. And I prefer to have a better level of optimism about these things.Some words of encouragement or some shared experiences starting a new job might be nice, thank you :)

What should I do? Possible sexual harassment

So my coworker is making me feel very uncomfortable. He's an elderly gentleman. Although my age I'm still mistaken for being anywhere from 18-20. At first I thought nothing of how he acts. He man spreads and I mean really man spreads. Like beyond what I think is normal. And of course when he sits that way and faces me his thing seems prominently showing. I'm not the only female at work to notice this. However when he's working with me, every time he says a word as talking to me he scoots closer to me, with his crotch basically facing me. He's not saying anything harassment wise. It's just the mere fact he scoots close to me. And only me.Also I'm engaged, he is constantly demoting my fiancé by calling him my boyfriend. Which now seems like he's just undermining the fact I'm in a relationship. This man is married and has grandkids. It's just making me uncomfortable to the point I leave the building and would rather wait outside in the cold for my future husband to pick me up(We only have the one car, and I'm not comfortable driving).All this is on camera. I can get proof of it. My direct supervisor has been out since November and hasn't been released for work. I was told by a co worker to call her about it but I've also been told for work purposes to go to the boss. However I've witnessed how he doesn't do anything with important things. Like how we're actually understaffed and he's not doing anything for it. At this point I'm not sure what to do. I'm not sure anything will be done about it if I go to our head supervisor. And I'm no sure I should bother my direct supervisor with it since it's about work.

Got fired for having weight restrictions

I started this job and was hired to eventually work full time. I did everything that was required of me. I finally got pregnant after a miscarriage in September. I've been having bad cramping like I did when I had a miscarriage. I missed a few days of work and 2 of which where I was in two different emergency rooms. The dr after my ultrasound told me everything looked ok at 6 weeks but I shouldnt be doing any heavy lifting or extreme workouts. Today my boss phoned me and fired me, she wouldn't give me a reason, but I'm pretty sure it's because she didn't want to accommodate my medical needs. I was in my probationary period, but isn't that discrimination? This is my first time ever being fired 😞

Pregnancy discrimination

so i handed in a doctors note for not working more than 40 hours a week, for the pregnancy (i usually work a shit ton of overtime). anyways because the note said “please allow our patient to work no more than 40 hours a week” my job took that as a recommendation and not a restriction and made me pull a 16 hour shift the same day. i mean, i feel like this is wrong. they said the note had to say “mikayla can not work more than 40 hours a week”. it’s honestly bull.

Maternity cover (uk)

So I have just been sent across information to process my maternity cover - FTE she is being paid £8000 more than me a year. Looking at her CV I can see she is very experienced and don’t question her worth however she is coming in to cover my level of role and she will be working 1 day a week less than me and still takes home considerably more. My boss has justified her pay by saying she will cover my job and added duties in this time.. not sure where she will have the time unless I’m really bad at my job (lol?)Would you feel put out by this or am I being sensitive? I also am currently underpaid and have asked for a pay rise twice in the last 6 months which was declined. My boss assured me when I returned she would put me through further training and development however now has plans for this cover to stay and move into a more senior role when I return - leaving me back in my job on a wage lower than I now know my business can afford.

Looking for work while pregnant

Hello all,Was wondering if anyone was in the same situation before and how it played out. I’ve been looking for work for some time but haven’t had any luck. Now I am 19 weeks through the pregnancy and still did not find work. I would like to find a job but now unsure what to do as I don’t have too much time left. How do I address this situation? Let’s say I do find work, do I tell the employer right away, I would think the employer would be really upset with me. I am looking for remote work in an accounting or finance role. Any employers out there can share some thoughts. I feel really stuck but also I could use some work not only for money but also I’m very lonely all day and still have a good amount of time to go and would be nice to get settled into a job before.

Sexually harassed/assaulted? at work by a coworker last night

Hey guys. I’m 10 weeks 3 days pregnant and my hormones are RAGING but I don’t know if I feel very justified on being upset and angry about this. I have a resident who is crazy most days and makes some very funny/weird comments. Last night at dinner she was pointing at different people (me included) and says “I think he had an accident. I can smell it.” I laughed and got up from the table to push a resident out to the hallway since we were almost done. My coworker followed me and I didn’t even have time to react to this, but she grabbed my pants and underwear and pulled them out and looked down into my underwear like she was “checking me” to see if it was me, then she goes “wow you have a nice tush.” I was so angry and felt so violated, I couldn’t even do anything but just be hurt and mad. I finished pushing the resident to the hallway and got the rest of everyone out, notified my nurses of what happened and just focused on my job to my best ability, filed a report at the end of the night. It’s now past noon the next day and I’m still upset and feel very uncomfortable about the situation. I doubt my job will do anything about it. Is this considered sexual assault or is it sexual harassment? Am I letting the pregnancy hormones get the best of me over a situation that isn’t that big of a deal? I work with this lady alone today and I’m terrified that she will try something else. I was molested by my stepdad (now ex stepdad) as a child and this brought up so many feelings for me and now I’m having a lot of anxiety over it. I feel like maybe I’m overreacting, but I just can’t shake that weird feeling.