I don’t know where to start. I got in a stupid quarrel with my loving boyfriend of 3 years and 5 months over nothing. It wasn’t even a fight. He ended up punching a hole in his staircase wall, in his parents home. He has never hurt me in anyway, and he is very gentle and loving. Not once has he raised his hand to me. Most of the time he is a really chill and happy guy.

But when he gets frustrated or mad he will take his anger out by punching inanimate objects. This usually only happens when his dad pisses him off. Usually a fridge, or wall, or who knows what. This is the first time that he has gotten this upset/frustrated/mad with me to hit something.

Yesterday we went on a hike, we had fun. We were normal as usual but he often doesn’t listen when I’m talking to him because he’s busy paying attention to something else. His phone, the tv, a game, instagram, texting, whatever. And I understand. But yesterday I was trying to talk to him, and he blindly responded. I continued to talk to him but he didn’t say anything back. I am physically looking at him as he’s watching Netflix. I say something again and he again doesn’t respond. Then I said did u hear what I said? I’m talking to you. He said “sorry I didn’t hear you, I was watching the show”. Okay. That’s fine I know it happens. He had a tendency to be kind of “deaf” and not hear what I say.

Today is my dads birthday, and he will be celebrating his Mother’s Day dinner since he was out of town during that time. In addition he will be leaving tonight to go to his friends place since he’s going on a hike tomorrow. I’m cool with that I really am. But this morning he told me he needed to do things for his car, change his bumper, pick up paint, remove rust. It seemed like he was busy. I also had to go pick up cake for my dad and wanted to get him balloons.

While we were having breakfast we were watching 13 reasons why on tv. When we finished eating, we were just sitting in the couch watching. And when the house is free we sometimes get intimate. So I was trying to tease him a little bit, but he had no reaction at all like I wasn’t even there. I felt completely ignored. Maybe he doesn’t do it on purpose but it really didn’t make me feel good. I just got the hint and kind of moved to the other side of the couch to play with the dog. Later he got up to put his dish away and kept saying “what do u wanna do, do you wanna go to the gym, etc”. And knowing he’s so busy today I just went to change, grabbed my backpack and said I’m gonna go home and pick up the cake. He asked if I wanted him to pitch in, I said no it’s alright. And said I know he’s busy today so he can go do those things.

On my way out, I said have fun on your trip. Which I was referring to his hike. I said Bye, but as I was on my way out I guess he was mumbling and I couldn’t hear him. I said “okay don’t say goodbye then.” And then he yelled “I SAID BYE SNOOKUMS” in a somewhat annoyed and angry tone.

As I was walking home I messaged him right away just to let him know how I was feeling, to clear the air as soon as possible. And to let him know i was kind of annoyed and also because I was trying to be considerate of his time. But he sent me a Snapchat of a hole in his parents wall. And I just don’t know how to feel about it. He totally over reacted. He will probably get an earful from his parents. But I’m just surprised that he would do that over something so unimportant/petty.

He didn’t reply to me for a little while since he went out to go pick up the paint. He often tries to occupy his time when he’s in a bad mood to take his mind off things that bother him. I guess Scorpio horoscopes are kind of accurate in this situation. I guess this was my rant. Not sure how I feel about it. Was a stupid thing to argue over.