Please help.

I’m unhappy in my marriage. It’s a long story that i don’t really have time to type out, but long story short; i have just come to terms with my unhappiness a few months ago, in March. Lots of things has caused me to feel this way, lots of problems that I’ve asked my husband to work on and he has worked on, and is continuing to work on, everything I’ve asked him to. He’s doing a really amazing job at trying to be a better man for myself and my son, and it’s acknowledged and appreciated. But i still don’t feel happy. I don’t feel a romantic or emotional or sexual connection to him anymore.. there are other outside factors that could possibly be accounting for this feeling, but I’ve worked on those things and as of right now some of them just aren’t able to be changed (i.e. my job, I’ve applied to literally 85+ jobs in the span of 4 months and have gotten maybe 5 call backs and zero offers). I don’t know what to do. I just don’t feel in love anymore. He wants to try counseling but i don’t.. i know that’s selfish of me, but i just don’t feel like my feelings are going to come back. Idk what to do.