On Tuesday, my husband and I found out the gender of our baby. Its a girl! We are so excited! My mom came with us to the appointment. She was excited as well.

Later on that evening, my husband and I thought to tell our parents and siblings the name. Her name is Caroline Ann. Not gonna put the last name on here, but the middle name caused a huge drama between my mom. Ann came from my grandma’s middle name (bio dad) and from my husband’s grandma’s middle name as well.

My mom went attacking me about it where how come I didn’t use her mom’s middle name (Marie). Her mom passed away when I was around maybe 7 or 8. So I don’t remember her much. She was mad at me for not letting me honor her or be grateful for her mom. Her mom was her world and that she was a wonderful women. Thought I am doing this to not let my mom be part of Caroline’s life. It just went on and on. Then today, she apparently told someone her coworkers. We work the same place but different time and different positions. She told some people that Caroline’s full name is named after my husband’s side! So I had to text her and clarify that no that isn’t true! We went on and on about the past drama where she kept a secret from me for 20 years that my real dad committed suicide when I was 9 months old. And that her mom was the one that helped her and watched me when she would go to work. My real dad’s mom, is still alive. I grew up with her and I love her so much! My mom hates my real dad’s family for many many reasons.

I told her I would do Ann-Marie for Caroline’s middle name. She keeps telling me you do what you wanna do. It’s ur baby. But then she’ll go back to blaming it on me.

What do I do? Just leave it Ann or change it to Ann-Marie?