Single mom... Again.

Barbie • RN, Mommy to one little prince and one big superman! Born 05/18/10 & 10/17/18 #Boymommy

As most of you single mommy's know, it is very hard being a single mom. I had my first born 8 years ago and me and his father was together for about a year and broke up, then a couple months after the break up, had sex and got pregnant. He is a wonderful dad and we have tried to get back together when my son was born but it just didn't work out. So fast forward to 8 years later. I focused on my career, made sure I dated men who was serious because I didn't want to just date to date (as I'm 28 almost 29) my focus was if he was not husband material then he is not going to waste my time. So I met a nice man (went to the same church) had all the same dreams, goals, pretty much everything you can imagine. people would see us out and would compliment us. He literally was everything I prayed for and more. 2 years later, with minor hiccups. I felt off and I know my body very well. So I decided to take a test and boom! I was pregnant. He has no kids 33 and I'm 28. So being in love and literally months away from getting married I thought the outcome was gonna be better. But it wasnt. He left me. (We went on a break last year for a couple months, for reasons I still don't know) but he broke up with me in a restaurant and said he wanted to focus on being a father. well 3 months later, I am on my way to recovering. still hard and painful. He calls me to tell me that during the break last year, he met a woman and they had a brief encounter. But now they are serious and he felt I should know. what??!! I felt like I was going to pass out. I still had hope for us but to leave me for another woman when I'm carrying your child? and the only thing that he could say to me was "I failed at being real". I'm not sure if any of you ladies are Christians, but prayer, trusting God's will and my 8 year old has kept me strong. Days I feel heavy and then other days I feel ok. I still don't understand it all. But there is one thing that I do know that after the storm, the sun will shine again.