In December I got engaged to my amazing fiancé and we instantly started planning because my parents always said that they would not pay for the wedding. Surprisingly, they decided (without any pressure from us) to pay for it!!! I am so thankful for it! My parents made it clear that even though they would pay for the majority of the wedding, they still needed some type of help from his parents. After discussing and fighting with him, they said they could help very little, but my parents were nice about it and fine with it because at least they are helping.

Fast forward to last month. I picked out the bridesmaids dresses and shoes and let them know. Well, his sister was going to be a bridesmaid and told me that she would, so I had a customized hanger made for her (and the rest of my bridesmaids, flower girls, and both our moms) for the day of the wedding. After I picked out the dress and shoes, she told my fiancé that she didn’t have the money to spend on any of the stuff bridesmaids have to pay for (the outfit, the bachelorette party, the bridal shower) and told him that I was PURPOSELY picking out expensive things and was trying to make her go broke. Two days later we went to visit his family, and she pulled me upstairs to talk for 2 HOURS where she said she didn’t want to be a bridesmaid, but wouldn’t give me a definite answer. She kept trying to make me say that I didn’t want her to be one and she kept making excuses (saying that their cousin who is a groomsman wouldn’t be able to afford it either so it would be okay because we wouldn’t REALLY have to kick anyone out that way). I was so mad. Finally, she texted me 2 days after that and said that she decided she wasn’t going to be a bridesmaid because she can’t afford it and would rather get us a good gift. THAT SAME DAY I SEE ON FACEBOOK THAT SHE JUST BOUGHT A KITCHENAID MIXER (which cost the same amount as the bridesmaid dress I picked) and and $80 tool box for their dad (the same price as the shoes I picked for them to wear). I was so mad!! Also, during that 2 hour talk, I found out that their mom had just spent $2100 to get her some bracelets for her birthday. That is the same amount that they still owe my parents for the wedding. His mom is also not going to pay for his brother (who is 14 and his best man) to go to the bachelor party in Orlando because they “already gave us $3000 for the wedding”

What makes it even better is that his sister just asked my fiancé for $1100 to buy a ring for herself. After he told her no because he is trying to save for the wedding unlike everyone else in his family, she told him that the only reason my parents were able to afford the wedding was because of the recent death in my family (my grandma died in October)!!!! I was livid. My family isn’t using any of that money for the wedding, and even if they did, it’s their choice!!!

She is so rude and always tries to be the center of attention. For example, when I told her we found our wedding venue and it would be outside, she said that she might pass out if it gets too hot and that her and his parents and grandma would leave early from OUR WEDDING if it was too hot for them (we live in Georgia, but our wedding is in early March, so if anything, it will be a little chilly). She would always make comments when we first started dating and throughout our relationship that we weren’t going to stay together or get married or that I was at their house too much and always made me feel unwelcome into the family. It makes me so upset because I love my fiancé with all my heart and I’m not going to let his sister get in the way, but I have watched my mom and my sister struggle with their in laws and I just know that this is how it is going to be with them for the rest of my life.

Their family is also Vietnamese, so they want me to do a Receiving Ceremony which is a respect thing for his grandma, but at this point I don’t want to do it because nobody in his family is willing to help us/act like they care about our wedding. They want to buy a handmade dress for me from Vietnam that I will only wear once, but his sister couldn’t even buy a dress for her brother’s wedding that was a quarter of the cost. I’m so hurt and mad right now.