My husband's dad has long cancer that has spread and he's not doing too good, none of the treatments have been working. My husband wants to take our 8 year old daughter(has ADD) & 9.5 year old son(has ADHD) to Tennessee to visit his dad, kids don't want to go, myself(24weeks pregnant) & our autistic 2.5 year old son would be staying behind. My husband gets mad when I try to explain to him that it would not be in our older children's best interest to see their grandfather so sick. I guess what I'm asking is, should I force my older kids to go visit their sick grandfather or stick up for my kids' wishes?