So a little story. Me and my SO have been together for 4 years now- we fit like a puzzle. We work together well and understand each other and we have a little girl on the way- due to come in October this year. My mother (who lives 5000 miles away) wants to come up for two weeks ( a week before the baby arrives and a week after she gets here) but my SO doesn’t want any family up here, saying that they can meet our little one when we come visit them in a few months after the birth, that we’ll be fine by ourselves and we don’t need anyone up here because if they come up we will be stepping on each other’s toes/ getting in the way of each other.

And here in YK it is super expensive ( hotels start at $200 a night, flights are $800-1500$ for both ways, food for a every week and a half is $200 *just for two people for food*). So for my mom to come up for two weeks could cost her a shit ton.

Now I can’t stop anyone from coming up to us and visiting. It’s physically impossible. She wants to help us and I’m trying to convince my SO that it would be beneficial. Would you guys let your mother come up and be there for the birth and afterwards? How would you talk sense into your SO? Is he in the right? I know it’s both our first pregnancy / child but I can’t help but feel a bit lost

What would you do?

Me and my SO will be taking mat leave at the same time so we will be home all the time together (6months)