Sex life struggles😯

So my boyfriend and I are fairly into BDSM (choking, spanking, being tied up) but recently I've really wanted him to call me a good girl and to punish the hell out of me when I tease him too much. He's punished me once but only because I asked him to and I don't know how into the whole dd/lg thing he's into. I know he doesn't like being called daddy, but I really crave hearing him tell me I'm a good girl ugh. But I don't want him to do things only because I ask him to. I want him to enjoy doing them as much as I like it.