Before I start, I’d like to admit the thoughts and feelings I’m having are not good thoughts; I don’t need to be told I’m a shitty person.

So I’ve recently started going out with someone who was in the friendzone (he’d liked me for a long time) and I hurt him a lot when I rejected him, but now (8 months later) I started to feel for him, then I kissed him at a party and now we’re together.

The problem is that I’m now seeing the incompatibility between us which would be easy to tolerate in a friendship but not in a partner. I’m unhappy with the relationship, I’ve found myself thinking about other guys, missing my FWBs, feeling like it’d only take some alcohol and the wrong guy for me to cheat.

I’m so scared that I’m going to hurt him, he’s an amazing guy and I just want to maintain our friendship, but I don’t know if that’d be possible if I end the relationship. His family is so lovely too and I’m so torn. I feel like I’m being dishonest by staying with him. I don’t know what to do.