Should my mom still come to my baby shower ?!? Read description

Honestly I’ve never been close with my mom. Despite all the wrong and just down right cruel things she’s done in the past ,I still TRY to treat her kindly.

I’m having two baby showers, one in Indiana and the other where I was born and raised Illinois. The baby shower back home was originally being planned by my grandma and being the control freak my mom is she somehow took over and came up with over the top details like $1000 dessert tables and such.

Now here it is 1 week away from that baby shower my whole family has been blowing her phone up because she basically went MIA while everyone is trying to confirm the plans. Food, reservation of the banquet hall and decorations were all left in her hands simply because she wouldn’t let anyone help.

She finally decides to call me back on FaceTime early this week pretending to have been sick and claimed out of all things ,that she had surgery and “didn’t want anyone to worry.” In the midst of her attempting to make her lies seem legit she basically revealed that she was broke and could not afford to do anything and basically recommended I cancel the shower until she can get around to throwing one

I know you might wonder how I know for fact she is lying 🤥 well for starters I lived with this woman for 19 years and was forced to tell “friends” she was being hospitalized when in fact she just didn’t want to be bothered by people. And you come to learn her ways.

She pulls things like this all the time but this really took a chunk of the little bit of love I have left for her. She could have simply said she could not afford to pitch in at the beginning. No one forced her , let alone asked her to take on any of the roles. She has never been a dependable person and we all know she’s never been financially stable( not because of her job she’s a well paid nurse that waste her money)

Also because my family in general know how she can be, my grandma and others already had a back up plan took all matters into their hands without including her. For years I always ALWAYS tried my best to turn the other cheek ,with her knowing how much this meant to me I don’t even know If I should invite her to the baby shower that she basically almost destroyed. 😰