Is “uncontrollable urges” an excuse or reason for cheating?

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Had a heated debate about this today with my partner.   I believe cheating is a choice, we have control over our bodies and behaviour.  I don’t buy the “she chased me so hard it got to the point where I couldn’t say no” line at all.   
The other person said although they would remove themselves from the situation before it got that far, they believe that hormones could mean it happens because it got too far and it couldn’t stop (ie another woman won’t give up).  He equated it to getting angry and losing the plot; someone teases you/chases you to the point where you lose control and the line is crossed.  
I am not satisfied with this discussion, I feel a little insecure maybe?   What do you guys think?

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THERE IS NO EXCUSE FOR CHEATING!

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Uncontrollable urges don’t exist. If they do, that’s a serious problem and that person needs to seek medical help.

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Can you explain to me how someone could chase you that much that you could control your self! What did she chase him into a bedroom and force him to take his clothes off that’s the stupidest thing I’ve ever hear hormones taking over 🤦🏼‍♀️ it’s definitely a choice. He clearly choose to meet her!

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There is ZERO excuse. Why make yourself sound twice as pathetic by saying you did it because you were weak?

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I bet the 2% of people who chose yes is the ones that are single because they cheated

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No!   We are not slaves to some uncontrollable power (or hormones).  
If you are in a committed relationship, then surely it would never/should never go too far?

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I don’t think any of those scenarios are ok to be honest- being really angry is not an excuse to punch someone, feeling horny is not an excuse to cheat.
We all have feelings but we can’t do something that hurts someone else and then justify it on the basis of our hormones/feelings. It’s the same argument used by people that girls were ‘just asking to be raped’ by wearing short skirts.

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i ment to hit no but accidently hit yes

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Nope. Uncontrollable urges are not a thing and he's an idiot. 
There is NO excuse for cheating.

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Before it gets too far you've allowed it to get too close.   I am with you on this. It is a choice. to give in or not but a choice. now in having a choice there is no mention of how hard if could be but still got a choice.

Is “uncontrollable urges” an excuse or reason for cheating?

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