How often do you think of divorce?

I’ve been married to my husband for almost 3 years. We have arguments on the weekends, usually every two to three weeks. They aren’t huge fights and they are over minor things. For example: yesterday he mentioned all he wanted to do that evening was to eat left over pizza and play video games or watch a movie. (Easy and simple) I was inconsiderate however, instead, I played video games majority of the night. I was being selfish that’s for sure. But when I asked if he wanted to play (while I was on) he said “no babe you can play. I’m just going to watch some tv in the other room.” So I figured that’s what he wanted to do. Well.. before going to bed he decided to let me know that it upset him that I played the game until about 9:30 that night which wasted his night(he said if he had known I was going to hog the game then I should have let him know in advance so he can go out and find something to do. 😕????? ) Stating that all he wanted to do was play games and chill. So we bumped heads but after I apologized and him taking us into different reasons as to why I am a shitty person I take a walk to clear my head and he finally accepted my apology.

Now..he has carried it out into our weekend. He had me turn the volume up on the tv this morning while he was on his game but I had accidentally pressed the input button before hitting the volume button and he blew up on me.. told me that I was purposely f***ing with him and trying to cause an argument. So now I’m confused. It was an accident and I am getting chewed out as he begins instigating another weekend of arguments.

We do really well for two to three weeks.. I can feel it in his energy that I need to be prepared and on my toes for his instigating. It seems to always be my fault and I admit. Sometimes it is. At what point of the marriage does it stop with being instigated and picked on? I asked him a few moments ago, “are you going to eat this plum you left out?” (No attitude or upsetting nonverbal/ body language. Just a simple question of curiosity so I can put it away if he wasn’t going to eat it.) He raised his voice to say “why are you judging me!? I think you’re not over the argument from last night so you’re going to try to start another argument.”

I’ve thought here and there about divorce because we have gone through some horrific situations. (He lied to me about his military career and education and I found out about the lies two weeks into the marriage), he has his good days and then weekends he starts picking fights and points figures at me. Sometimes I’m so confused about what is going on and why the arguments are happening and it feels like gaslighting. I feel like I’m the one that’s legitimately causing the arguments. When I’m wrong I admit my wrong doing and apologize but sometimes I’m confused at what I’m apologizing for..Am I the only one that thinks about divorce but not sure if it’s actually going to happen?