Husband is f-ing annoying

You know the stereotypical woman who does the whole pouty/avoiding/icy thing but then when her husband asks what's wrong she says "nothing" but clearly something is wrong, but she wants HIM to figure out what he did wrong?

Well, my husband does this. IT IS SO FUCKING ANNOYING. He's otherwise a great man and a loving husband, great with my kids, a good provider etc. But every few weeks this happens until he finally has an outburst and tells me, and by that time I have no damn clue what incident or tone or whatever it was because it was awhile ago and we have 4 kids so my head is spinning as is. I'm not a masculine woman or anything, but sometimes I feel like I'm the man in this marriage and he's the woman by the way he problem solves. I've been telling him for years (we've been married 7 years now) that he either has to just speak up if something is bothering him, or let it go, but genuinely let it go, not just shove it under the rug but he's really still mad. He's apparently mad at me for something the past couple days and I have no clue what and he won't tell me why. I ask if he's mad and he says "no" but I know eventually I'll hear it. All it does is make me be more distanced from him and have a "whatever" attitude because I'm not going to kiss his ass or beg him to please tell me what's wrong. And then when he finally tells me, it turns into a whole 2 hour discussion and I just don't want to deal with it.

So this is a PSA if any of you ladies out there do this to your man PLEASE STOP because I'm on the other end and it's fucking annoying as hell. Just speak up and say what's wrong in a clear way or move on and stop the pouty ice queen crap.

Thank you for letting me vent, I'm not usually this crass, but I'm just tired of it, not to mention I have a newborn and I'm emotionally and physically exhausted so I just don't want to deal with it.