Dear moms

I grew up with a mother who as a kid (and by kid, I mean very young), I thought loved me and did everything for me to protect me. As I’ve grown older, I’ve learned that my mother is self centered and as horrible as I may sound saying this, she’s not smart. This reason, this is the reason for most of my life problems. I have grown up not being allowed to decide how much of my hair I can trim, let alone even if I am allowed to trim it. I need permission to trim MY hair that is on MY body. I’m 21 years old. I’m not allowed to make my own decisions. I get told how to live my life by someone who doesn’t even know what life is and how to live. I am one who has many dreams to travel the world, help people. My mom won’t even let me go on a vacation to see fireworks for July 4th. Asking to go somewhere makes me “a selfish, dumb child”. I feel like freedom is something I never had just because of how I’ve had to live around her. She believes everything she says is right even though she doesn’t even comprehend most of the things I say. It may seem like such a simple dumb thing to say my life problems are because of her, but try living like this for 21 years, and you’ll understand how hard it is. Not being able to reason with her for the most basic things. I hope no mother out there is as unreasonable and self centered as my mom. I hope all of you are loving and understanding towards your kids because the lack of that is what has pushed me away from my mom. 😔