Dear Husband,

All of my past relationships have sucked. I don’t know if you can even call them relationships when I really was just there for one thing. I kept trying to find someone who truly wanted to be with me for me and not just as a warm body. Then I met you. We finally started dating and everything was great. Until you started talking to other women, nothing physical just texting. I told you I didn’t like this and that it had to stop and it did. We moved on rebuilt trust and built a family. We are now married with a child and you start doing this again. Not with just anyone though, with one of my best friends. Sending her good morning beautiful texts, calling her baby, and my personal favorite when you called her your sexy little stripper. Its been a couple of weeks since I found these messages and I still don’t know what to do. I want to try to move past it. There was nothing physical but I feel so betrayed and stupid for trusting you. On top of that we all work together so once she gets back from her vacation I have to face her, my friend, who didn’t tell you to stop or tell me about what was going on.

I keep going over my options and thinking about divorce but we have a child and I don’t want him to think I just gave up. But I don’t know where to start with you anymore. There’s no trust. I feel so insecure in myself and our relationship that it hurts. I feel like my old self again like I’m not good for anything but being a warm body, not good enough to love. I don’t know where to go from here.

Sincerely,

Lost

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Mo

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You ARE good enough to be loved, but unfortunately HE is not good enough for you!!! And I hope you mean EX friend!!! I don’t believe there was no physical relationship. Why would he call her a stripper if that were true? Please don’t believe him. He’s not worthy of your trust and not worthy of you!!!! You deserve a lot better. So sorry you’re going through this.

Ja

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You are more than a warm body. You are strong, resilient and selfless. You are the mother to a beautiful little human being and you have so much to live for. For yourself and your child. If your husband is cheating on you, you have many options. But first and foremost, you need to find your self worth and value from within yourself. No spouse, partner, friend or family member should have that power or privilege. Your husband and this woman you considered your friend, have betrayed you and your trust. You can address it in many different ways. Whatever way you do, be sure it’s going to be a healthy option for yourself and your child. Whatever you do, please don’t internalize what you’re going through. You are not the problem. They are.

Lo

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Don’t take his attitude toward you as factual. He is a selfish person and you shouldn’t doubt yourself because him. Your friend is not a friend. You have a beautiful baby you have been blessed with. Taking is unfaithfulness to you is NOT keeping a Family atmosphere. Your child will eventually know that also. Please pray for guidance. You and the baby deserve better