My dad is staying with us the week before my due date. So stressed.

I am 38 weeks pregnant with my parents first grandchild. I am close with both my parents but live in Utah and they live in Maine. The distance and it being able to see me has been hard, especially for my Dad, but he just got a new job and isn’t able to take leave from work until October.

Well he called me last week and said “my boss gave us all the day before the 4th of July of and the rest of the week. I’ll have 6 days off (he’s crying while saying this) can I come and see you? Of course I would never tell my father he isn’t welcome to visit, especially with him having very limited opportunity to do so and how hard being away from me has been.

So he will fly in Tuesday 4/3 and leave Sunday 4/8. I am due 4/12 but am measuring ahead.

While I am very close with my parents, my dad is extremely overbearing. I just got off the phone with him in tears because this is how the conversation went:

Me: Jake (my husband) is looking forward to golfing with you.

Dad: we won’t be going golfing and leaving you at home.

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Me: Bring swim trunks, it’s going to be in the upper 90’s and hit 100+ next week.

Dad: Nope, we won’t be traveling to some lake with you that far into pregnancy.

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Me: I just don’t think you renting a car is needed, we have three vehicles here.

Dad: If need to get you to the hospital while Jake is working, I will be able to do that.

Me: Dad my Doula is driving me to the hospital and most of my labor is taking place at home.

Dad: Nope. Not if I’m there it’s not. You aren’t a cat and aren’t doing this at home bull shit. (the hospital isn’t even a mile from my home).

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Then he gets VERY offended when I say I don’t want to deliver my baby while he’s here. Like, I want it to be me, my husband, and my doula. That’s IT. I am having a natural birth that I’ve worked for and I can’t even imagine going into labor while he’s here. I’m so overwhelmed. I want to be excited to spend time with my dad, but this is legitimately the worst time for a last minute (only opportunity until October) visit. I’m so stressed and don’t know what to do.