Does your S.O. support your career without boundaries? 🤔🤔🤔

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DISCLAIMER: I'm not asking for myself, as I'm not currently in this situation. Just always been curious as to how others might feel!
Okay... Let's talk. Whether you have a family or not, this is for all to chime in.
These days, I hear lots of people within my age range (I'm 27) advising one another *not* to stay with their S.O. if he/she is unable to go the distance (literally) for the relationship to support a career goal and keep the relationship intact. AKA-- You land a dream job seven hours away, and your S.O. refuses to move with you to support your professional dream.

What are your experiences? Do you see this as reasonable, or would you leave altogether if your partner refused to move with you/entertain the idea of finding a job in the location of your dream job?

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I've had relationships that were on both ends of the "support spectrum," and I won't offer my opinion because I have mixed feelings. I also understand, especially with a family, that there is a lot more that goes into the decision-making process.
This seems to be an extremely sensitive subject for friends and family members around me, so I'm curious to learn how you feel!

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If my career path was causing me to move I’d tell expect my fiancé to join me. We have kids and a life together. If he wasn’t willing to then we’d be figuring out custody arrangements bc I wouldn’t put my dreams on hold. Vise versa, if he came home tonight and told me that we had to move out of state for his job... Girl let me tell you. My bags would be packed by tomorrow

Mainly bc I’m sick of my loony ass family that lives here, but also bc I love him and I’ll go wherever needed

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it depends on who is the bread winner

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My husband is supportive 100% as long as we have a plan. I'm the same way.
We've made big changes over the years together. When he went back to school full-time, he wasn't making money for 2 years. We moved, and I mostly supported us (student loans helped). 
Then he got a great job, but it required another move. So we agreed to commit to it for a few years and then revaluate, because it meant I had to leave a job I loved :( (I didn't want to live apart, neither did he)
Now we're figuring out another big change; I want to go to grad school. So we need to agree on how to finance it, if we'll move again, and how much (if at all) I'll work while in school. 
Our only disagreements are financial ones, and we've been able to compromise and work those out. I'm so glad he's completely behind any career choice or change I want to make.

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I told mine I was going back to school to finish my nursing degree and guess what. hes actually an amazing study partner. he quizzed me and reads my english.( I suck at papers and hes a published novelist)

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My husband and I would work it out together to move together. It’d be a fairly simple plan- he has a MUCH higher earning potential than I do, and I can do my job most anywhere. I have relatives that just live apart for chunks of the year tho. Like two college professors who teach indifferent states and one comes back home for holidays and summers. It somehow works for them. My aunt and uncle were like that too for years!

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Depends on the relationship and the reason for the move/job. 
For example I would NEVER under no circumstances move away from my family. It’s just who I am and my husband knows that. He would love to move away to Florida but he knows it’ll never happen. If for some reason he really felt the need to move away for something then either we’d try long distended or end it. relationships are made by compromising but there’s also issues where you need to stand hour ground.

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He does to an extent. His only concern is me working one on one in a 'submissive' type of role, privately for a man. He has a double Masters and works in finance. I have a bachelor's degree and have always worked administratively, mostly in the hospital system. I am a high level admin meaning my jobs have typically been being in charge of scheduling staff for the entire Hospital or working under department heads in the C Suite over the years. He doesn't want me to take a position as an admin / personal assistant to any entrepreneurs or business owners outside of a corporate setting even though the pay would be phenomenal. I am very good at what I do and having a job like that would provide the flexibility I need for my kids and for our family. Those jobs typically tend to come with a ton of perks as well. But he's just not comfortable with it so I don't push it. It's not that he thinks that I would cheat on him or anything but me being in a submissive role to another important type businessman is somehow sort of a slap in the face to him and/or would make him feel like he's not able to take care of me so another man has to do it....It's ridiculous, but I get it ❤️ Now that I'm not at the hospital anymore (wanted to try other areas to expand my experience) I work from home doing medical transcription and we also jointly own a moderately successful face painting/body art business and he works in finance. I would move if he had a job opportunity he wanted to pursue and I don't know that that situation would ever arise for me but if it did I know he would certainly consider it carefully because a lot of the stuff that he does is done from home as well 🤷

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My fiancé doesn’t want to move out of state bc he’s superrrr close to his family and his parents are older but if I’m taking a job in another state , he’s coming no if’s ands or but’s , PACK IT UP. I turned down a job initially in another state bc it was short notice and he didn’t want to move but we’ve talked about it since then.

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I wouldn’t move if he suddenly got a new job, but I wouldn’t ask him to not accept the job

Does your S.O. support your career without boundaries? 🤔🤔🤔

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