Sex, masturbation, vaginal exams... feeling gross and disconnected from my vagina in third trimester :(

Sex officially sucks. I hate being sexually frustrated but having no way for relief.

I feel so gross and weird down there that even when my beauty therapist bumped my labia while doing my Brazilian (something she's probably done a bunch of times with no reaction before) I got hella squeamish and nearly bit her head off. (And her hands have been all up in my labia getting hair out for well over a year before I got pregnant so she knows me pretty intimately :P) but it just felt awful!

I'm 34 weeks, I have an amazing vibrator but it's like my vagina has become a dormant volcano in some sub region of the Arctic Ocean, there's just nothing happening down there except irritation. I just go numb from it after a while. My husband and I on the other hand used to have lots of sex before I got pregnant. (Pretty routine, I went down on him, we had sex)... But for the past 3/4 months it's just hurt. I even tried buying condoms because I thought the added lube might help initiate the sex part... I've always been put off by my husband fingering me/oral sex for some reason. (He doesn't mind doing it but he's tried so many times and I've gotten grossed out by it so many times he just doesn't even try anymore...) It wasn't really an issue before because usually going down on him made me super duper wet but not anymore! I don't remember the last time I got turned on by anything. Normal lube seems to just burn me, hence trying condoms but nope. Wow, the plastic sensation grossed me out so badly, we had to stop.

I get the most intense herby jeebies thinking about having a gloved strangers hand probing me. I've been having mini panic attacks over it. If I can't even let those closest to me touch me like that, how am I going to handle a stranger?

Urgh, it's making me hate my vagina. When I know she needs me most, to be there for her because she's gonna need a lot of TLC after getting battered up by a baby but i just don't know how to reconnect with that area. Or at least how to reconnect with that area enough so that the mandatory (my hospital has a strict 4cm dilation admittance policy) vaginal exam doesn't make me have a panic attack so bad I kick some poor unsuspecting midwife in the face.

Will my libido ever come back? Is anyone else feeling disconnect from their delicate flower? It's even making hypnotherapy useless because half of it is connect with down there and I just can't seem to :/