What was your ‘moment’...?

By your ‘moment’, I mean the moment you decided that your significant other was the person you wanted to spend all your moments with.

It doesn’t have to be some epic tale where they rode in on a white stallion and rescued you from a tower, or an engagement with 7,000 roses and candles (although those stories are still valid!) I’m talking about your run of the mill, normal moments in life where you thought “hang on, this person is fucking wonderful”

Here’s mine:

We met three weeks before I was due to start my teacher training. I knew it would be hard to maintain the relationship as it meant driving 80 miles a day to my job in a school, spending all my evenings and weekend completing the assignments, and not being paid for any of it so having barely enough money to pay bills and eat, let alone date.

So I told him all of this. After three weeks, most men wouldn’t have stuck around. But he did. I told him I wouldn’t have time to do the normal date stuff like go out, so he came to me. I was spending so many of my evenings laminating things for displays in my classroom and reading textbooks so I’d know what I was teaching the next day and I felt like I wasn’t giving him the attention he deserved or a new relationship requires. So I tried to end it by telling him my concerns.

His response was to take one of my textbooks, and he started recording himself reading aloud. I was like ‘what you doing?!’ He said ‘I want to make this easier for you, you’re in the car three hours a day. If I record myself reading it then you can listen while you drive and that’s one less thing you need to worry about’ - he then took all my display stuff off me and started laminating while he read and recorded himself.

This grown man who hasn’t been to school in ten years was reading from a sociology textbook out loud while laminating fucking essay structure wall displays on his own evening after he’d been at work all day, just so I could spend more time focusing on the more important aspects of my training.

At that moment I nearly started crying. He gave me a hug, told me to stop being daft, and get on with my assignment.

Almost four years later, I’m a qualified teacher, in a wonderful job, and that man is my husband 😍

Reading and recording himself from my textbook

Taking me to Glastonbury festival to celebrate my qualifying as a teacher/our engagement!

Our wedding day 💙