Greetings go everyone. a little back history of the past 6 months or so..m.my question in the end is what do I need to do...I've been happily married for a year now as of june, we have a beautiful six week old baby girl who is perfect in every way. my husband and I are remodeling a two car garage into our first real home. so at the moment my parents offered us a place to with them so we could get out of the city. (plus it saves money to) last November my dad had a medical embalance. ..he was on way to much tatostern and he was drinking more...the doctors didn't really catch the dosage and it's all wacky. this in play he malested my older sister....twice..which in its self is a lot to mentally handle. let alone what she's going through....22 didn't find out about this Untell we moved in with themm....now that sister and dad has moved out and it's just the three of us in an old farm house with my mom....which whom I love dearly...but she's grown very bitter and dipressing.. given the sircamstances that'd very understandable...my husband and I are the only one basically trying to reach out to my dad...he's quit drinking in a whole. which he's stung led with for over 30 years or longer...he's no longer on the hormone...and he's found faith again...buy 6 months later he's lost hope of ever being able to come home again....my husband and I have been placed as the family negotiator now which isn't the best place for newly weds to be...sighs....my husband is amazing...he didn't ask for any of this...and I've been trying to excapes from the stupidity of it all sense I was a young girl....now not only is it back in my life. but it's effects my husband and daughter too....have I failed in my role of sheltering our baby girl...is there no way to avoid this except ignore them all? I feel like I'm losing my faith. and it's very difficult to stay happy. I just wanna be able to watch our baby grow. be a good wife and momma to my wonderful family... but we are locked into buying land. which we love...and there's no excapes right now. no where to go. new development as of right now. my husband has a decent job. better then what we could find in the city. and for the most part he loves it. he's asked me to stay at home to care for our daughter and recover. he doesn't want me to need to work at all, he's so sweet and old fashioned,. I'm truly blessed with our little family. anyway he'd put in pto for the fourth of July so we could go and see his family. nut shell his supervisor lied telling him he could have it, but gave the request to someone else instead and his job made mandatory overtime on the fourth...if he misses a day he will get pointed. and he only gets 12 points a year.. favoritism is strong in his line of work and he isn't a favorite.the way his supervisor set it up is if my husband went ahead and took the days off and took the points so we could get a break and visit his family...he would have been fired. his supervisor would have pointed him out and that'd be it. ..I'm so proud of my husband. he took the issue to hr before we planned on leaving today....the HR is new and didn't feel like he had any pull to do anything...so he contacted higher up, which you'd think would be our lucky break right? no...higher up is buddies with his supervisor. ..so a big meeting happened his supervisor is PO. my husband is choosing to work tonight but is taking the 4th and 5th off to visit his side of family which he will still get pointed for but not fired...which is good! it's just been taxing to get it to this point...this paycheck will be shorter...we haven't gotten our hospital bill from OB yet and I'm a little worried.. there's just a lot to handle with out considering the hormone embalance from being pregnant, adjusting to a little darling who likes to steel mommy's sleep..and a crazy extra family who is to emotional for life it's self...my question is, how do we stay a float? how do we not get dipressed? how can I manage to stay happy and uplifting for my husband's sake.. and our daughters..the last thing we need to happen now is for me to break under the small differences between his family and I... and unleash my Irish temper on them... prayers for this weekend and holiday would be nice.. thanks ..............I know this was long, and it's more of a rant then anything... but I'm starting to Crack under it all and I'm not sure what to do..