How to deal with helicopter/drill sergeant parent??
So I’m a 16 year old girl going into my senior year of high school. This is a fairly new problem for me; it’s gotten bad over the past couple months, but it’s been a general problem for a few years. My mother is, for lack of a better term, a psycho. It’s impossible to ever make plans with my friends because I’ll ask her and she’ll say no for absolutely no reason. If I try to reason with her/ask her why she said no, she just turns it into an argument and yells at me because she always has to be right. She constantly says bad things about me to my other family members and treats me a lot worse than them. I have an older sister which influences the way my mother treats me. My sister is a book nerd, studies all day, is very introverted, and doesn’t like the same things I do, which my mom likes a lot more. I am a (fairly accomplished) musician, I am an extrovert/I have good social skills, and my grades are fair. She constantly shuts me down for wanting to study music because she doesn’t think it’s valuable. She has actually said to me (on the day we were going to tour a music school) that I’ll be in debt for my whole life because I’ll never be able to find a job and I won’t be able to buy a house or support my future kids. She has never said anything like that to my sister. I never talk to her about my feelings because she doesn’t take me seriously; I struggle with anxiety and depression, and there was one time about 6 months ago that I told her I’d like to talk to a therapist. All she said was “eat healthier.” I try extremely hard to please her but it never works. I can’t be myself, I feel like a prisoner in my own home, and I’m missing out on being a teenager because I can never get out of the house. I can’t even have a normal conversation with her because I’ll say something and she says “stop saying stuff under your breath, it’s rude.” When I was talking perfectly clearly. Yesterday, I went for a walk around my neighborhood, and she tracked my phone and came and picked me up because she thought I was doing something fishy. I had told her I was going for a walk but she doesn’t believe anything I say. I’m worried that she won’t change when I go to college and that I won’t be able to pursue my dreams, but I also just want to enjoy my senior year of high school without this huge amount of stress from her. Can anyone help me?
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