Hi guys! I am literally losing the will to live! I am 37weeks pregnant and my fiancé and I have had quite a few baby names chosen out since first trimester! Always set on them until this evening.....

We had always agreed on Hugo and Arthur (hubby decided and I agreed because I love them) but we are deciding whether to use one or the other because baby may suit either or! Middle name I thought would be nice to use my partners middle name James! I like it as a first name but having cousins on both sides called James we settled on a middle name! I found out a few months ago that one of my grandfathers first names was James but he always went by his middle name so I never knew.....I thought great! It’s meant to be!!

Girls were easier we had settled on Freya or Isabelle but middle name was a struggle I liked Freya Alexandra but didn’t like it with Isabelle! My Nana passed away a few weeks ago and my middle name is after her (Constance) which I hated as a kid, then I realised everyone called her Connie which I quite liked! Put it passed my fiancé he loved it as a middle name😊 I even said if you hate it please say and I won’t be offended....but he liked it!

Great or so I thought.....until this evening! He was on the phone to his Mum and when he finishes is really off with me....I question him and he says that she thinks I am being really selfish with my name choices.....I was like MY name choices????

Apparently his mum thinks the fact that we are using my family names and not his is a big issue!!! I am confused because James is on both our sides....and Connie isn’t my Nans actual name but I can see why she sees that one as biased. The problem is my partners Nan also died but months ago and my partner has already said he doesn’t want to use her name (Winifred) which is fine! But now my mother in law thinks the names are all my doing and Fiancé isn’t having in put.....which is far from the truth!!! The names took so long to decide because we are both so fussy but now she has said she doesn’t like the names all names are off the table according to OH all because of her!!! Baby is now nameless!!

I just want some advice really because I am worried we won’t find a name that we like or can agree on now because of her interfering! I agreed to taking Connie off the table but now we have no names.....I wish he hadn’t said anything to her! But it’s too late!!

Is there anyway I can get him to consider the names he originally suggested and liked??? Anyone else had this problem???

Sorry it’s long!!

****UPDATE****

After sorting everything out between my partner and I and sleeping on it names are back on! Or they were until he got back from work on Saturday lunchtime! He is usually home by 1pm but he wasn’t, I text him and call him and no answer!!! It gets to just after 1.30 and the house phone rings, I answer it, it’s my mother in law! I was really friendly said hi how are you she ignores me and asks for my OH....I said he isn’t home yet at that point she starts screaming down the phone at me for being biased with names....I barely understood a word she is saying! At that point OH walks through the front door and he has been crying....so I have my fiancé upset and my MIL screaming down the phone! I said calmly to her whether she listened or not, “look I don’t appreciate the way you are speaking to me right now but OH has just walked through the door so I suggest you speak to him and sort his out, ok take care bye” and I hand the phone to him!

All I can hear is her screaming about the names and about how she won’t have a relationship with the child because of me....wait what!! So I get pissed off....where the hell has this come from anyway somehow the argument then turns and I am dragged in to it! I don’t even know how but she wants to speak to me.....I don’t even know what’s going on! I think the jist of it is how I won’t let her in the delivery room immediately after birth, how we don’t travel 4hrs to see her often enough (we saw her 2weeks ago, and the time before that 5 weeks ago, and try and go once a month), about how I don’t ever appreciate her (basically I am a private person I don’t want to have endless chatter everyday, I have messaged her anytime I have bought something for the baby or done something for the baby so about once a week) the list goes on!

Since I have been pregnant this isn’t the only argument or problem she has had with me....we get married in Sept and I didn’t want a hen do because I would either be pregnant or have a newborn but she took it as I was excluding her 🙄

Anyway she is screaming on speaker at me and OH and everytime there is a pause for me or one of us to speak she interrupts....I get so hyped up I turn round and say “i love this baby but sometimes I wish I never got pregnant if I had known it was going to cause this many arguments” she takes offense to this and starts calling me a bitch and every name under the sun...... I walk away! I haven’t called her any names I remained quite dignified apart from that statement!

After everything calmed down with her and OH I messaged her to apologise for what I said....I don’t think I did anything wrong but I apologised without excuse......have I received an apology for being called a bitch etc NOPE!!!

Is it wrong to expect an apology?? I am struggling to sleep, I was always bought up to apologise even if you still think you’re right because sucking up your pride for the sake of a relationship is more important than who is right and wrong!

How do I deal with and move on from not receiving an apology and I probably never will?