Ive read abt orgasms and women’s experiences, on the internet. Ive watched porn and i have had sex but im still confused

When i masturbate i lie on my stomach and press my two hands over the whole vulva, i assume that’s clitoral stimulation, i also finger but even with fingering i think i get off from pressing my two hands. It feels great, i feel done after a minute or less, i take a break and do it again

When i have sex, vaginal penetration also feels great, and how someone described it online was: reaching the cliff but staying on the edge and never going over the cliff...my boyfriend can come in a minute or five or ten, but he makes a great effort to make it last longer. I however dont know when ill come, if ill ever go over the cliff.

He has licked my clit and it felt nice but we havent done it again, and anyway i really like being penetrated. When he fingers me i shiver.

But im not sure if ive had an orgasm? I always usually want more from my boyfriend, the maximum we had was 4 rounds, but recently he just tries not to cum the first round, but i just want to be able to finish and he finish too.

Help me understand please thank you