Help *** PLEASE NO JUDGE! Nothing nice don’t say shit!**

So i kind of found out this thing where if me and my boyfriends ( past boyfriends) don’t have sex after such a long time I start to feel as if I’m not connected with them anymore and litterally start to get very pissy and mad at them and also kind of think maybe. I picked a bad guy. Like I love my boyfriend who I am with right now but we have not had sex in like two to maybe three weeks and that is really started to effect me and like we start to fight and get into arguments and such and it like we tried and he will be like. I can’t get had so then I feel like. Like he does not like me like that anymore and then I feel like maybe we should break up and I know that sounds bad but. My last ex we were together for a long time and then we legit just stopped having sec and i would and he wouldn’t really want to with me and then we started to fight like really really bad and then we eventually broke up and I’m starting to feel like this is either a Pattern or I’m just a bad person and I’m not sure what do. And YES I KNOW SEX IS NOT THE ONLY THING TO BE CONNECTED WITH! But. I do like sex and so does he we do other things and stuff but it’s like it does take a toll on me

JUST TO BE CLEAR I DO NOT PRESSURE HIM INTO HAVE SEX I DO NOT EVEN BRING SEX UP HE DOES! And then HE says he can’t stay hard when he was the one who wants to have sex!

I love him dearly! But when every time we start to have sex and he says he can’t stay hard YOU ARE GOING TO ASSUME THAT ITS YOU IF ITS EVERYTIME!