When will I have closure. 😔

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Last week I went in for my first ultrasound and there was no heartbeat. The dr said it was too early, though I should have been about 7 1/2 weeks based on LMP. Even if I was earlier on, I would’ve been maybe 5 1/2 weeks at the earliest. 
Went for another ultrasound this last Monday a week later so if I was early on, 6 1/2-7 weeks. No heartbeat and no growth. My ob called to tell me last night that this was not going to be a viable pregnancy. That was when I found out there was no growth as my ultrasound dr didn’t mention that. My heart broke. 
Now I’m praying God let’s me have closure. My cramps have been getting progressively worse since two days ago. Last night and through the night they’ve been pretty bad. Still no spotting. I’m praying I don’t need to have a D&C.; 
I feel so selfish and so guilty for saying this. With this pregnancy, I was on progesterone and my dr did not want me going swimming or doing anything really including food shopping. I’m a first year teacher and this has been my first real summer vacation.  I have spent my summer pretty much housebound sitting on the couch worrying about my baby.  I have OCD so that doesn’t help with me obsessing over every little thing. Next week I go on vacation and I just want closure by then so I can use that time to be with family and heal before I have to mentally prepare myself for my second year of teaching Kindergarten. Swimming is a major thing in my life that helps me relax and it’s been killing me that I haven’t been able to do it. This all may seem silly and stupid for me worrying about this , but this is what will help me cope. It’s killing me knowing my baby is still inside me and I can’t save him/her. I just want some closure. I feel terrible for even thinking that. I don’t want to give up on this life inside me, and it breaks my heart that I can’t do anything to bring my baby back. This was my first pregnancy and my husband and I were ecstatic of course. 😢
How long after you started having serious cramps did you miscarry? I know everyone is different. My symptoms are also nonexistent. Praying for us all to heal.

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You are not selfish for wanting it to be fine do you can heal on your vacation. I get it totally. I’m stressing out because I go back to work (teacher) next week & I want this DONE before then so I can pull myself together & not have to explain all this to my colleagues. 
I’m scared to wait & be at school when things start, & have to leave & be out & have everyone know & be sad & questioning when I come back. I’m going in tomorrow to get the medicine & get things going so my emotions can start to heal.

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I had my first scan 2 weeks ago should of been 9& a half week but baby was measuring 4 so rebooked in for Tuesday just gone, to find out baby had stopped growing and i was having a silent miscarriage! Since ive started bleeding alot but still not passing anything as of yet! Got to retest next week if strong positive have to go back into hospital for a d&c;!
So sorry to hear about your loss theres nothing more heartbreaking 💔

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6 days of cramping before everything came out though bleeding for 8 days before everything came out. It's been 6 days after and still have heavy bleeding and extrem cramps. word of advice. watch how much blood you loose. I lost about alittle over 2 pints of blood in 4 days and still worked over 40hr in 4 days. Stupied yes but my boss wouldn't give me the days off. I only break down now when I see my pregnant  coworkers. My sister in law which are both 8 months old. And anything baby related. even after holding my baby in my hands I still didnt accept it. Until I saw my little bump disappear. Unfortunately my coping has been alcohol. Stay strong it is hard, emotionally and physically draining. Take time for yourself and spoil yourself. For me I got 100$ in crab legs and got expensive shampoo. It helps to take time for yourself. Message me anytime if you want. Personally I'm not religious, but if you are may the gods watch over you. Rainbow dust for future pregnacys.

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I am currently going through my second and I’m also a teacher. I also have spent my whole summer worrying and waiting for closure. I finally took the medication yesterday like I did last time as after 2 weeks my body had not done anything to indicate a natural MC was in my near future. Asking about the pills may help get you the closure faster. They’re not a for sure to work, you may still need a D&C; however if it doesn’t happen naturally you may need that too.

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I just had my first miscarriage. Went in for first 10 week ultrasound and found out the baby had stopped growing at 6 weeks. I had planned on a d&c; since I figured my body didn’t get rid of the pregnancy for 4 weeks, so might as well take it into my hands. But thankfully I naturally miscarried 3 days after my first ultrasound.
It started with spotting and then gradually increased to normal, bearable period type  cramps to cramps that felt like contractions that were equally spaced apart. After an hour I passed some major tissue (was not prepared for that). The next day was the worst pain... 3 hours of insane can’t breathe cramps every 7 minutes and then I passed the embryo along with what felt like 1/4 of my blood supply. Then the next day I painlessly passed the rest of the tissue (no one warned me it was going to be the size of half a chicken breast).
The only positive thing about a missed miscarriage is that at least you get the time to grieve and cry and be sad before the actual miscarriage- because you are in so much pain you are trying to survive and  you might not feel capable of mourning.
But once it is said and done, you will have closure and hope to try again. That’s been my silver lining.
Wishing you all the best.

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I’ve been through this three times now. It’s devastating to see that second ultrasound and realize nothing has changed and the baby is gone.
I’ve never had success waiting for it to pass naturally and have managed with medication all three times. It helped me speed up my healing to get everything out in one day instead of waiting. 
Sorry for your loss. Sending hugs.

When will I have closure. 😔

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