So I don’t want any fight or arguments...

But I have heard a ton of people say that once you have a child they come first, you are nothing, blah blah blah.... but I have also heard the same amount of people say to put yourself before your kids and your marriage/relationship. To learn balance and give yourself to yourself, your child and your S/O.

Being a new mom myself I want to know which one I’m supposed to be able to do, do I learn balance or just give my all to my kid all of the time. Again I REFUSE to argue and I DO NOT want to hear anything mean about me, especially since I’m way way to emotional with another 9 weeks to go still.