My partner gets "scared shit out of" when I come back home. Can I do something to help my partner?

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Newly married and moved in together several months ago. Every other time I come back home, my partner says that I scared shit out of them. I want to be greeted, not treated like a burglar. But I don't want to tell my partner to feel a certain way. I feel stuck. I've talked to my partner, but we don't come to any resolution about it.

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What is the reason they are so scared? Do they have a past trauma or are they hiding something...;

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You could text your partner before you come home telling them you’re on your way, Or call and say your outside and coming in?

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If he has PTSD or a past trauma that would make perfect sense. Send a text when you’re on your way. Then call him or send another text when you’re outside. Something as simple as “i’m here”. He’s not trying to make you feel like anything, he sounds genuinely scared.

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Does he have trauma or PTSD?

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Do you get home at the same time every day/night? If you do, you could just tell your spouse to expect you at that time (so keep a click handy). Text or call before you head home (maybe even keep your phone in the cupholder of your car as you drive as long as it doesn’t distract you). That way, they’ll know exactly what’s going on (at least until it isn’t an issue anymore).

My partner gets "scared shit out of" when I come back home. Can I do something to help my partner?

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