I am literally at my breaking point. My SO decided without talking to me a few weeks ago he’d be riding up to Sturgis (12 hour ride). After he finally told me about 2 weeks ago I had made it extremely clear multiple times I did not want him going and if we wanted to go he needed to find a way so we could both go.

I stay home with our son he’s never home because he works out of state. He got home Friday night around midnight Saturday he was so emotional and upset about how much our son has changed in the last 3 weeks he has been gone. He brought up how he is leaving a day earlier than planned to go up to Sturgis and how he will be back next weekend.

So he left yesterday afternoon. We got into a huge fight because he was leaving without any consideration to my feelings about any of it. (I do have legit personal reasons why I don’t want him going) I am so sick and tired of him making decisions that affect our family with no care as to how they make me feel. I am so sick of his friends and his motorcycle being put above our family. He wants me to be happy for him he wants me to be excited and supportive but how the hell am I supposed to do that when I told him not to go?? I told him I am sick of being a convenience and not important. I am sick of him not spending time with his son.

I have made the decision to go find a job. I have an interview this afternoon. I will be starting to save money so I can get out. I don’t deserve to be treated this way and neither does our child. We need to be priorities in his life and we aren’t.

EDIT

Yes you’re right I should have known this was coming. I guess I thought a 38year old man would know when to put his family first. Clearly I was wrong and I put too much faith in the man that says he loves us and wants his family and wants to mend the issues in our relationship. I thought for once after me expressing my feelings and reasoning he’d pull his head out of his ass.

Honestly I am absolutely devastated by his actions. I am sad. I am hurt. I am angry. I feel sad for our son that barely gets to see his dad- he’s 8 months old and sees his dad maybe 5-8 days a month in person and it has been this way since he was born. I am supportive of him working where he needs to work even though it 100% sucks that he’s so far away. I don’t understand how you can willingly just up and leave for a week when you’re home off work and not spend it with your child that is changing and growing faster and faster every week. I don’t understand how someone can be so emotional and crying over the fact your child has changed so much then take off. It breaks my heart.

I feel selfish saying this but I NEED A BREAK TOO!! I love my son more than anything and even though we were planning on taking just using a babysitter from care.com so we could do stuff together.

Why is it he thinks he is the only one that gets to get away and have a break from everything?? He’s never even home. I am here doing everything everyday. When he’s home I don’t even get a break. I may as well just be on my own. I’ll work my ass off if I have to but if he wants to behave this way I may as well actually be on my own. I am sick of being in a relationship and partnership with someone that is never actually present.