wedding next August and

here's my issues my parents split up a little most three years ago and I was so much older so anyways I don't want my mother there at all but she's on my maybe Iist she's the one that left she's the one that hadn't called or texted to see if I was okay my birthday is tomorrow I'll not get a card or a text nothing at all so my question (s) is would it be tacky to invite her and put a list of things I want from her and what she can't be involved in

she's not going to be allow to bring her dude that she left my dad after 30 years for shes only going to be considered a guest she can't be involved in anyway shell not help me get ready or anything special like that maybe a picture but that's absolutely it I'm being to mean about it?????