Im at a loss idk what to do. I've been taking care of my mom for about 2 years now 10 (on and off) if u count when i was a minor taking care of her. Anyway my problem is she's hit an all time low!! She had blood clot issues in September they found kidney stones did surgery and since has had about 9 more cause she insists the only thing she can drink to stay hydrated is pepsi. She was in a rehab facility walking without a cane when she came home she didn't even use her cane to come upstairs. Well since she's been home she's dependent on adult diapers and rarely uses the actual toilet she does nothing but sit in a chair in front of a tv 24/7 unless she has an appointment. She's completely lying to her doctors she tells them she's drinking water daily she says she's doing her daily exercise and also says she's quit smoking over a year ago. Well now she's had her 9th surgery she's having problems with her leg again (same problem that got her hospitalized) she says it hurts from her hip to her toes which im sure is from not moving around and has not moved since Wednesday she hasn't asked for help to the bathroom/to get changed she hasn't even as much as asked to stand up but she's surely screaming at the top of her lungs when she drops her phone needs cigarettes or pepsi. Im so tempted to put her back in the facility i have children and she's making my house disgusting. She's got piss all over her and when i asked if she wanted to change her clothes i heard "no im fine" I feel horrible that it's come to this but i cant help someone who wont help themselves and it's not a healthy environment for my kids. I would just like tips to deal with this please.