Keep fighting or pull the plug?

For the past year our relationship has not been the best. Our daughter passed at 22 weeks and he was in and out of jail with basically house arrest in between. The second time he went back was the hardest. I was in the hospital for a week and a bit and he struggled with it and ended up not going home causing his suritey to pull bail. I knew something was going on with me in my head but didn’t know what and even after a week in the hospital for evaluation I still didn’t know, I found out I have bpd (boarderline personality) I also had post partum and normal grief. When he went back to jail my life was a total mess. I know I made a mistake I still did it but I know it was a mistake, I talked to guys and went to the bar a couple times with some friends I ended up dancing with one and took a video and forgot about it. When he came out of jail he found it after searching my phone for a good hour. He absolutely snapped and broke the phone and bent it. Holes were made in the walls and things were thrown and ripped. I understand he was mad so I can’t really say much about it I did make a mistake. This was a whole year ago, the only issue is we have been fighting pretty much every other day since then and the topic seems to be no trust. At first I felt so bad and understood but at this point I really feel the accusing has to stop. I’m at home napping and he texts me saying “where are you why’s your internet off you’re obviously out” another common argument is not having sex enough. He wants to literally everyday if not twice and gets mad when we don’t. He says I make him feel like he’s not good enough or like I want someone better (sexually) I explained it’s not that and I simply don’t feel up to all the time anymore but not once have I said no and it’s not a problem. I feel like I’m more easy going than he is even if I go out with my mom to the casino or to her friends he gets upset and it’s so stressful for me I feel like I’m walking on eggshells. I want to end it he thinks we need to keep fighting he said anyone would agree with him and that I’m the root of the problems in our relationship. Sorry I know this is long but I really really need advice here. Again I know I fucked up when he went away I don’t need people to tell me that part, just need some advice