How do I convince my husband I dont want to drink alcohol anymore?

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I hate alcohol. It seriously puts a wedge in my marriage. 
First let me say, we dont drunk much at all. Maybe once or twice a month. But I dont want to drink AT ALL. 
Alcohol makes me bloat so the point i look 6 months pregnant and its painful. I instantly get headaches when i drink, and the next day (even if I just have one drink) my stomach is tore up. It just isnt a fun experience for me. 
My husband hates to drink alone. (I dont blame him. Itd be boring.) But he makes these 'plans.' For instance, this weekend we went to town with some friends we haven't seen in years. So we drank. I have one drink the first night, then about 3 drinks the second night. That was plenty enough for me. 
So we came home yesterday afternoon, and started getting back into our routine. He starts his night shift tonight, and I had to get the kids ready for bed and school today, the house needed cleaned blah blah all that stuff. It was a day to relax and recoup for the week. Well. My husband had this plan that we take some shots, and then we have wild sex. So I asked if we had to have the alcohol to do that and he said yes. That alone kinda annoyed me because it shouldn't be a requirement. So i said we do the wild sex, but I dont want to drink. The rest of the night I got the awkward silent treatment. 
Then when I confronted him about it he made some remark about "well I'll be on night shift for the next two weeks and so we wont be sleeping together so I figured one last night of fun.. " so because I didnt want to drink, we just couldn't do anything together. 
These are his responses when I repeatedly tell him his alcohol makes me feel: 
-well lets just take a lot of shots and get you drunk before all the "side effects" kick in. 
-you use to drink with me all the time before we were married and had kids.
-maybe you haven't found the right alcohol yet. 
I tell him I dont want to drink at all anymore and it becomes a fight every single time. 
It's getting so old, and I'm so tired of it.

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Um, he sounds immature and insensitive, if you don't want to drink don't drink!! It's not up to him and he needs to understand that.

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If you’re feeling sick then your body is trying to tell you to avoid it. Your husband needs to respect that and be concerned for your health. Stand your ground and don’t give in to drinking just because he wants a drinking buddy.

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All I needed to read was the first sentence. You tell him it’s putting a wedge in your marriage. If he doesn’t care enough about that to stop then there is a bigger issue

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He sounds like an alcoholic to me people that can't have fun or do anything without drinking are dependent upon it and he needs help. He shouldn't be pressuring you to drink when you don't want to just sit down and have a talk with him and if it doesn't change maybe try counseling

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You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. I don’t drink anymore (medical complications after having my son) & my SO does.. obviously he just has a beer or two. But your SO should be supportive of your decision & if he can’t drink alone that is his problem not yours. You can still go out & hang out with your friends even if they’re drinking, doesn’t mean you have too. You don’t need to “convince” him anything, your body your right & if he’s a jerk about it with comments, again, HIS problem.

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He should respect your wishes. If it’s effecting  your health like that, it should be his priority

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You can just not drink. You keep choosing to.

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You don’t have to convince your husband that you don’t want to drink. You stand up for yourself and tell him know. You’re not doing it anymore. He can do what he wants, but you won’t because you don’t want. He’s probably afraid that you’ll try to make him stop drinking, which may or may not be true… But mostly he’s probably just afraid to face his own demons and doesn’t want that party life to end. Perhaps he can enjoy life without being drunk. He needs to see a therapist. He wants you as his enabler. Not wanting to drink anymore means you won’t be that anymore for him. So, if you have concerns about his drinking, just express that to him while understanding that he has to grow at his own rate and the Two of you could be on different pages for quite some time because of this. He is more than likely just terrified of that. So I think therapy for him, and couples counseling for the two of you would be a good idea.

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All you have to do is say "No". No one can obligate you or force you. you cannaldo just walk away from the situation. I have stopped drinking and on the weekends I am usually around heavy drinkers and I stand my ground.

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I actually understand this... something similar was happening to me, except my SO wasn't mean about it but definitely pushy. So, we just drank. Like everyday. And I felt okay but I knew it wasn't good for me and I had gained a lot of weight because I'm a beer girl AND I eat a lot when I'm drunk. But when I'd say I didnt want to drink, he would almost romanticize the idea of drinking, like "oh it's so nice out, we can crack beers and hang in the sunshine and blah blah" and that was enough for me to crack! He is okay drinking alone though and honestly drinks less when I dont drink with him! Well luckily I got pregnant so I was able to stop... in your case I would honestly just stop and let him be mad for a bit. If he gets over it, then you're all good. If he doesn't then there are bigger issues... he shouldn't guilt you into drinking like that.

How do I convince my husband I dont want to drink alcohol anymore?

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