I'm 21 weeks pregnant and my parents have been pretty absentee during my life, I've seen my father a handful of times and I cut ties with my mother 3 years ago. My mother is someone I don't want around my child point blank and she knows of me expecting through family taking it upon themselves to tell her. My father never really did anything to harm me other than not wanting to be a father, do I tell him and give him the option to be apart of my daughter's life or not? I've always felt if he didn't want me why does he deserve my children but then lately I've felt that to be a bit petty and I'd love for my daughter and myself to get to know him but I'm cautious incase he walks out my life again, which is a massive trigger for my mental health, and I don't want my daughter to feel abandoned like I was.