Not helping with bills

This is going to be long and I apologize, but I feel if I’m going to tell one part of the story I have to tell ALL of it for everyone to understand.

When my husband first moved in with me I was living in government housing and my rent was based off my income. My rent at the time was $130 a month because I was a single mother, full time college student, and could only work part time because I couldn’t afford after school or weekend care for my son.

When he moved in we tried to add him to the lease but my landlord refused because we weren’t married and she said so long as we didn’t cause any trouble she had no problem with him staying.

I thought;”great!! My bills don’t go up and I’ll have some money left over at the end of the month now cause I won’t be paying everything myself.” <——- WRONG!!

Even though he was living there he didn’t pay for anything except internet,- which he wanted and insisted on getting when he moved in.

So for 2 years I paid rent $130, power $150, my car payment $212, and bought most of our food which was around $250 a month. So $742 (not including gas)a month, which may not seem like much but at the time I was only working 25 hour weeks and barley bringing home $820 a month.

Even though he was home more than me (he gets his 40 in Friday - Sunday) it never bothered me that I was the one paying for everything..... Until recently.

Little over a year ago we got married and found a new apartment that’s $430 a month (we live in BFE so housing is cheaper) all the other expenses stayed about the same and my husband finally started helping with the bills.

Well in May he got me on with his company, full time, much better pay and different shifts so someone was always home with our little boy.

I stayed their until July which was when I was sexually assaulted by a coworker who had a reputation of doing these things. I quit without notice because the man had already been reported by several other women and nothing was ever done about it. After about a week my husband convinced me to go back and file a report.

So I did, and I’m pretty sure the only reason the man got fired was because I brought up the previous incidences I was told about. While HR was investigating my claims I found out I was pregnant and told my husband I didn’t want to go back because it’s a manual labor job, and in a factory that has no air conditioning (we live in the south and the building easily each 110 degrees).

But I decided to go back because we needed the money.... My first day back from leave I started experiencing signs of heat stroke so I was pulled into the office and they called my husband to come get me.... That day -August 20th- I decided I wasn’t going back.

It’s been 3 weeks now and I haven’t had any luck with finding another job, unfortunately all I have experience in is customer service.

During these past 3 weeks he says he understands why I quit but at the same time he’s brought up that I’m,”putting everything on him.” And until tonight I’ve felt bad about it... until I remembered those 2 years were I paid for every fucking thing myself!!

And it’s not like he’s only making $800 a month!! He makes $1,460 a month!!! (More if he does over time, which he usually does)

And I’m not asking him to do everything on his own for 2 years, just until I can find another fucking job!!

I just think it’s ridiculous that for 2 years I had no problem paying for everything on my own while he blew all his money on PlayStations and Xboxs and a-whole bunch of other bullshit. But when I’ve been without a job for 3 weeks because for medical reason it’s the biggest fucking deal!