My stepkids have a very different life when they are with their mother. She chooses not to provide for them because she has lived her entire life mooching off of other people. She works VERY part time at a Mexican restaurant and lives rent-free and completely bill-free in a one bedroom camper in her mother’s yard with her boyfriend, her 9 month old son from an ex boyfriend, and my stepkids when they’re with her.

A few nights ago, the youngest one (he’s 5) told us that his mom sleeps naked in the bed in the living room with her boyfriend who is only wearing underwear and the little baby. To me that is TOTALLY inappropriate. So he went on to say that he and his brother sleep in the “room” that doesn’t have a door on it and that there are roaches all in there. He said “But at least there aren’t as many roaches in there as there are in mama’s van.” 😳 So I’m sitting there thinking, this roach-room is completely open to the living room where his mom is naked in the bed with a man that their mom has been dating since February. It was all so weird to me. THEN he told me that they can’t use the bathroom, brush their teeth or take a bath/shower because it doesn’t work. He said sometimes the toilet works, but there isn’t a sink to wash their hands. THEN he told me that the kitchen/living room where his mom sleeps has roaches all in it and there isn’t a stove or a fridge in the kitchen. On top of that, he said the sink in the kitchen has water, but they can’t use it because the water is “rotten.” I asked how they bathe, use the bathroom and brush teeth and stuff and they said they have to walk across the property to their grandmother’s trailer to do that (the oldest boy is 6).

I got the entire conversation on recording because it was very disturbing to me and I wanted my husband to hear. So he heard and he was very upset. We’ve been collecting things for the next time we go back to court, so he saved it to show our attorney. Thier therapist said that if they had told her that in their sessions, she would have been mandated to report it because it’s considered a form of abuse and neglect. So I knew that something had to be done. I’ve been so disturbed by that conversation and tonight I decided to call DCFS and file a report. My husband and I have both made claims before, but nothing has ever come of it. We don’t even know if they ever investigated it because we never heard anything from the ex wife or DCFS. My husband cries himself to sleep some nights thinking about what his kids have to go through when they aren’t with him and it breaks my heart for him and the kids.

So I guess I just want to hear what some of you mamas and stepmamas think about this and if you would have reported it. Right after I did it I got so scared that she would find out it was me and retaliate. She’s already gotten me fired from my dream job because she made unfounded claims against me after I made an appearance in court and testified against her. Anyway. Thanks if you read this all the way through. Let me hear what you think! ❤️

*For the record, I didn’t interrogate the children, nor am I vicious. I’m concerned. To the person who posted that I was being vicious and filled with hate, that’s not the case at all. My husband has talked to her. He has begged her to stop putting his kids in this situation and she blames him for her lack of anything in life. She has brought us to court 14 times in an 18 month period over completely ridiculous claims that have been proven to be out and out lies in open court. A year ago, she had moved them in with her new boyfriend and had them sleeping in a king sized bed with her and her boyfriend who were both naked. So this is not the first time she has put her kids in these situations. And we do know what the actual conditions of the camper are because her sister has come to our house worried about the kids before. We hadn’t ever heard them talk about it. So to the person that posted the really long, really rude post... you didn’t have to be so rude. This woman intentionally neglects her kids and I don’t know why a person should have to be supportive of that. My husband has 50/50 custody and STILL gives her child support. So she isn’t left alone to her devices. 🤷🏼‍♀️