Husband hasn’t invited me to his work Christmas party 😒

Ok so this is a bit of a long story but me and my husband have being going through some marriage difficulties. I had an ectopic pregnancy in May and fell pregnant again pretty much straight after. We are both happy about the pregnancy but we were still coming to terms with what had previously happened etc. There were also other things going on that put a strain on our marriage.

Cut a long story short husband is now on anti depressants and we are trying to work at our marriage. Things aren’t perfect as he is still quite detached and isolated but it’s better than it was. We are no longer arguing a lot etc.

I found out yesterday after asking when his works Christmas party was, that he hasn’t put my name down as going with him. Partners are invited and I’ve always gone with him previous years.

He said initially because I will be 7 months pregnant he didn’t think I’d want to go because I would be bored and I can’t drink. He said his company have got bigger so its a bigger expense for them and it wouldn’t be fair on them to pay for me and then I might cancel and not go. He’s never cared about that before.

Then he said he also wasn’t sure whether we would still be together by then because when the final numbers had to be submitted we were arguing etc. Around that time he wasn’t sure whether staying married was the right thing and we really had to talk things through and work out what we were going to do. We obviously agreed to continue and try but apparently that’s why he didn’t put my name down.

Am I being silly to feel upset? Last night he gave so many stupid reasons as to why he didn’t think I should go, that it just made me feel rejected and unimportant.

He said I’d have to buy a dress that I’ll only wear once so it’s a waste of money (even though I’d wear the same one to my work

Party), I would have to buy soft drinks because I can’t drink the alcohol his work place provide etc, someone would have to look after our son (childcare is never an issue for us as we have a lot of support). He said I go out with my friends for dinner sometimes so why is it an issue if he goes alone to his work party... I just think he is making excuses.

Personally I think he wants to go by himself so he can drink and smoke without me around. (He smokes at work and not around me as he knows I hate it) Like I’d be a hinderance.

I wouldn’t have minded but he is staying overnight at a hotel and didn’t even consider coming back home to me after. He said that would mean he can’t drink.

We are trying to work through our marriage but it’s difficult because I’m trying to be supportive of him and the fact he is depressed, but at the same time it’s hard when I feel like he doesn’t want to be intimate with me at the moment or thinking about my feelings.

Am I being crazy and unreasonable?