Mom against (more) tattoos

Cw: self harm

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About 6 years ago I developed a serious problem with MDD (depression), anxiety, addiction, and self-harm. While I'm doing waaay better now, I still have scars all over my thighs and forearms which will only go away with plastic surgery, and I don't want to spend money on that. They don't tan and I used sugar scrubs/scar cream for about two years before I just decided to be happy with myself and my body, despite the ugly scars I have everywhere.

I love tattoos, I already have one and I want a bunch more so I can cover up the scars all over myself. I feel like getting meaningful tattoos over the scars would help me love myself more and would look better than plastic surgery scars lol.

My mom really doesn't like tattoos, and has asked me not to get any that will appear in my wedding pictures (I'm not currently engaged anyways). However, I would much rather have tattoos in my wedding pictures than scars, because the scars are honestly NOT beautiful and I don't want them to be a part of my life.

I don't know how to discuss this with her because while I would prefer to say "screw it, I'll do what I want," I have a pretty good relationship with my mom and I don't want to mess it up.