When does normalcy begin?

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I miscarried today. I don’t really know how to pick back up and go on. I need to get groceries. I have a toddler to take care of. Thankfully my husband is home but he goes back to work tomorrow. I am in pain and my heartaches. Do I just jump into life or ease into it? I don’t want to be dramatic but I can’t even see myself leaving the house right now. I don’t wan to talk to anyone (except like 4 people. Haha). When does normalcy begin again? Can I just hide for a few days? Does everyday get better? Once the bleeding is over maybe?

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I had two miscarriages.  I tried to jump right back into things with my first (which was right around Christmas); I took a few days off from work, I went to Christmas parties, went on vacation for New Years Eve...I felt like garbage the whole time, emotionally, but rhouhj yeah, every day got better.  My husband and I kept saying it happens a lot, it was just a fluke, etc.  
My second one was much worse on me, because I didn’t expect to have to go through that heart ache again.  I took a leave of absence at work (oh, I also work for an OBGYN by the way, so I had to see pregnant women all day every day).  I took a month off, this time during the summer.  I didn’t see too many people besides my husband, sister, and mother.  We went to the beach, went for drinks, saw a bunch of movies...I realized I never allowed myself to heal the first time.  Taking that time for myself was the best thing I could have done for my well being.  Now granted I didn’t have any other kids to take care of, so I’m not saying to do the same...just give yourself the time to heal.  If you don’t want to go out every day, then don’t.  I didn’t want to either the first time around, so I forced myself, thinking I was doing the best thing to get over it.  I should have given myself some time to deal more.
Anyway, good luck, and feel better.

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I miscarried in January and had a d&c. The first 2 weeks were emotionally tough. Every day it get a little better. Cry when you need to cry talk about it when you need to. Don’t bottle it up, it’s easier to get it out. It sounds silly but I read a million posts on Pinterest and I would cry nonstop. It gets easier just hang in there! 🙏

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Normality doesn't exist anymore
Life has changed forever 
You will get used to putting on a front but will see babies and pregnant women and get cold shivers and feel angry and the that should be me feeling  but it does get easier to deal with as time goes on but still hurts like hell

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Thank you so much everyone for the feedback. 💕

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Jumping into things is best. Keep busy. 
I obviously mourned the loss for the next 2 days crying all day in bed and after that was able to just try and move forward (baby still inside me) then 3 days later we induced the miscarriage (it was a missed miscarriage) that helped me move forward also. Then 2 weeks later had to have the d&c and that’s when I truly felt it was done in my heart. I still cry every now and then (i wouldve had a newborn in October) but after the d&c i rested the next day went shopping with my parents even though i was bleeding, I just had to stay busy. Cope however you feel is best but don’t forget you have a little miracle already in front of you. Stay strong ❤️

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I personally found it better to "distract" myself with things like work, errands, cleaning, etc. When I was home alone and not keeping myself busy I just cried constantly.  Social situations with friends and family who knew was the most difficult, so I did ease back into that. My first early miscarriage was in December, my second was later in May, and I'll be honest that I still have bad days. It has gotten easier, but I still think about them all the time.

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I took 2 weeks off of work. It was miserable when I went back. I miscarried at 13 weeks and had already told some coworkers for safety reasons (I work in a hospital). I had already announced to my family as well. I still don’t feel normal yet and I miscarried back in May. It was my first pregnancy and I feel like a failure. How you respond or react to miscarrying is completely up to you. Some people end up just fine, some people just need a little alone time to mourn and heal. Some people need counseling for their depression. Just listen to your emotions and do what’s best for you. If you need to sit at home and cry for days just do that. As long as you are able to care for your other child or have someone to help you out. I don’t have other kids so I was able to just completely fall apart and it didn’t affect anyone else. I’m so very sorry for your loss. I hope you can find some peace and heal over time ❤️

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