I was friends with this girl through high school and I’ve recently deleted her from my life, literally.

When I was 17 I was drugged and raped. It was a setup and 2 girls from my school were involved, 2 guys from the same town were the ones that raped me. They drugged me and the guys raped me while I was unconscious, I woke up with the second one though and tried to get away. When I tried, I was stopped at the doorway by the 2 girls who escorted me back in the room... this happened multiple times until he was able to succeed in raping me. I never reported it for various reasons.

This has followed me for a long time, I’ve seen therapists but that hasn’t helped. 8 years later, I’m finally starting to speak out about it. It’s still bad at times... I even had a nightmare about being raped last night.

I had this friend who was a mutual friend of the girl. I showed her the marks and told her what happened the day after they raped me, I told her who was involved and she said “that doesn’t surprise me, they’ve always talked about doing fucked up shit like that”. But she continued to be friends with them. She continued to tag them in shit online, continued to be actively involved in their lives. I don’t know about everyone else but I know for a fact that I would NEVER be friends with rapists, especially ones that did it to another friend of mine. This girl is essentially saying she doesn’t believe me and that those rapists are more important than I am in her life. I’m tired of seeing these people’s happy lives... I can’t take it anymore. I blocked those involved on social media then I deleted that mutual “friend”.

That “friend” messaged me today, weeks after I removed her. She wants to know if she did anything to upset me. I do not want to respond to her, I feel that she didn’t give me the respect so why should I give her respect? I just want it to be done and to cut her out completely, I do not need her or that in my life. I’m conflicted though because 1 of my 3 good friends says to tell her why so she can have that closure. The other 2 say fuck her because she hasn’t been a productive part of mine.

Can I get some outside opinions?