Should baby showers be traditional or whatever the parents decide?

So me, my mom, and my aunt recently got into a disagreement about MY baby shower. All I wanted was to have it at my aunts house, never not once asked her to plan anything, I wanted to plan it myself. Her and my mom are welcome to help but I wanted to do things on my own how I wanted to because it’s my shower not theirs. So when I told them the theme I wanted, what my menu was, and the games I wanted to play, they literally said “oh that theme is stupid, that’s not a baby shower theme that’s a theme for birthday party, and who had pizza, wings, etc at a baby shower?! The shower isn’t even FOR YOU it’s for your guests and you have the theme catered to them that’s how it’s supposed to be. Oh lord we’re gonna have to come in and takeover” and me with my stubborn self says “NO you’re not gonna come in and take over, I don’t want things to be traditional, I LIKE MY THEME, this is my event. I didn’t ask you guys to plan anything or even want to tell you much about it because I know this is how you were going to act” keep in mind my aunt is my sons godmother and she thinks traditionally the godmother plans the shower, but I’ve never been 100% traditional, she knows this I’m going to to what I choose to do. So now since I’ve turned down all her ideas and told her I don’t want anything traditional she claims “she’s washed her hands of it, she offered her help and I denied it so now she’s gonna leave it all up to me and won’t help” and every time I bring up anything about my shower she’s sarcastic and says “if you would’ve left it up to me that wouldn’t have happened” smh they’re not seeing my view point at all, I’m not saying they can’t help whatsoever, I’m welcoming their help but what you’re NOT gonna do is come in and take over and plan it how YOU want it to go. So now I’m gonna have to find a new venue for my baby shower and me and my sons father a planning it all. I think as the parents we should have the final say so in what happens at the shower and what doesn’t. Or should it be traditional and let the godmother plan everything?