Not happy with my marriage

Hi everyone,

This is sort of a depressing post and that is more of a rant/ wanting to just type everything out.

I have been married for little over a year and for the past couple of months I have felt like my husband and I don’t connect at all. We both have new jobs so we only see each other at night. He leaves for work before I do and I get home after he does.

Every night when I come home from work he is “busy” playing games with his online friends or friends from work. I don’t mind him playing games but when I come home I want to talk about our days and spend time with him, but he never seems to want to. I’ve tried to discuss that I have felt like we haven’t spent much time together and want to more but he always says he is just so tired from work that he wants to relax.

Well I have been telling him I want to do more things with him on weekends together since he is “so tired” during the week and every-time I bring that up during the week he is always so excited and agrees with me, but by the time the weekend rolls around he somehow finds a reason to not want to go out with me.

I guess I’m just feeling lonely and he doesn’t seem to care despite me trying to talk to him about it.

Well on Friday i decided to go out with some friends after work because i assumed he wouldn’t want to do anything and when i got home he got mad at me saying how i should have invited him and how he would have loved to go. I kind of felt bad so today (Saturday) i asked him to spend the day with me and have a fun day. Well i suggested hiking and he agreed because it’s been something I’ve wanted to do for awhile now. He did make effort and took me out to lunch but afterwards his phone broke and he decided he needed a new one.

Sooo... we went and got him a new phone and had to come home so he could set it up. I told him that I still wanted to go hiking and spend the rest of the day together and he said. “We’ve spent all day together already.” We left the house at 11 am, got home at 1:30 pm and it’s now 4pm. He hasn’t even come out of his office since then because he’s been playing with his new phone.

I’m just kinda feeling sad and my feelings are hurt because he doesn’t acknowledge that I am trying to and want to spend time with him. It’s just like he doesn’t care. At all. Doesn’t even want to talk about it. I’m just not sure what to do anymore or how to make him understand how I’m feeling.

Anyways... I guess I’m just going to watch Netflix the rest of the night.