Help. What is life after HVS 1

Hey I Recently Learned That I have HSV-1. And I learned this information because I had sex with this girl like a month back and I never had any sign , discomfort or anything. And I havent had a cold sore since last year. ( I used to get cold sore all the time.) But the 1st I have sex with a girl she tells me she felt funny down there🙀. But before I got the official results back she told me that , give oral to some else two weeks after she told me she was feeling some kind of way down in her genital area. And AGAIN I STILL HAVE NEVER FELT ANYTHING DOWN THERE. She Went ahead and told me that the girl she had preformed oral sex On is now feeling away in her genital area. Which makes me feel like I’m Who to blame and it’s crazy because now I feel like I’m who to blame.😪😪 I didn’t even know I had anything and I just got out of a two year relationship and that was the only person I had sex with. The only person I’ve had sex with unprotected in the last two year. I called them to tell them what is going on and they told they went to the doctor and got tested befor they became sexual activit again after our relationship and their test came back (-). I really feel lost and not sure about anything. I have sooo many questions that I don’t know the answer to or how to feel. I haven’t told nobody but one of my close friends but even then just talking and tell somebody about it made me feel bad . What is my sex life like now??? How am I supposed to date and feel comfortable and confident in meeting new people and have that conversation?? any advice would be greatly accomplished .