I have a crush on a guy 8 years older than me.... WARNING: LONG AF š please bare w. me tho I could use the ADVICE!
Let me just give u the back story. Iām a 21 college student and i met this 29 year old man, named Michael, from this sketchy ass app filled with creeps (off topic but he also has the same name as my older brother, the same age & they almost have the same birthday month but my guy is a few days older). He has a 6 yr old daughter who he has on weekdays i think & the childās mom has her on the weekends. When we first started talking things were good & we were getting to know each other. Then he started acting more distant & thatās when I just left him alone. It wasnāt until early September when we started talking again & things were good.
Out of the time weāve been talking, Iāve really gotten feelings over him. There was a period of time where he was playing games with me & he would be inconsistent with texting & he would say random things like āi had a dream that we had raw sexā so I stopped putting in effort in him but recently, we started back talking again for some weeks now.
Going back to about 2 weeks ago we finally met & since we live an hour & a half away from each other he came to see me but we met at a hotel because I didnāt want to be in my dorm cuz my roommates. Honestly, when we met in person it was good & it made me like him even more. We did talk about having sex in the past & we mightāve exchanged pics tooš©. But we did end up having sex at the hotel. After we saw each other, conversation wasnāt weird & his feelings for me were really starting to show. But ever since this weekend, itās been different.
Since he came & saw me last time, I was gonna make the drive to see him. It was last minute when he told me it wouldnāt work this weekend cuz he has his daughter (I guess he couldnāt reach her mom cuz it happened last time when we met. She was supposed to get their daughter but instead of meeting the Friday we met Saturday). Thatās when things changed on his end cuz even tho i was bummed by it but I accepted it. It all started on that day, Friday cuz that whole day before I was supposed to see him, he was taking forever to reply & it wasnāt after an our past the time I was supposed to be on my way to him was when he gave me the news not to come. Then on Saturday morning , he freaked on me because he wanted me to confess to him that Iām fucking someone else, even tho Iām not.
Another backstory: Iām not really sure what his deal is, maybe itās cuz Iām younger or he knows that I talk to other people but he assumes that Iām with someone or fucking with other guys. When I take awhile to respond or when I respond at odd times of the night he says something slick like āhave funā or āI hope ur enjoying the hunni ur with rnā. But when he responds late or at weird times I donāt say anything or I call him out on it and he acts weird again like this time...
Back to what I was saying tho.. so on Saturday he freaked on me saying I should just tell the truth. Then when we were texting, literally over 10 hours passes by & I still donāt hear from him & thatās when I called him a hypocrite telling him if heās gonna be on bs not to hit me up & I think thatās when it hit him but he still was taking several hours after that to talk to me.
Iām so sorry that this is long but I need advice. I literally canāt stand having feelings for someone simply for this reason. I just feel like games are being played & I would think at his age that heās done with those but apparently not. What should I do? Does he even care? Should I just keep waiting around or should I just completely cut it off. Iām just not sure if this will even go anywhere or if heās really serious. There are signs leading up to him not caring as much like for one, heās never called me except when we were meeting at the hotel so heāll know how to find me. When I brought up calling, he took his time to text me back. He also has instances where heāll leave my message on read & not reply (that was mostly in the past tho). I just donāt know & I could really use ur input.
EDIT
2 weeks later and things are officially done between him and I. I finally sent him the āIm doneā message this morning. He kept showing his true self and I honestly thought he would change. Honestly, I did end up seeing him 2 weeks ago (the weekend after I made that post) but I donāt regret it. It sucks tho that it didnāt work but the only thing that makes me sad about this whole thing is that he still assumes the worst of me. Heās really convinced that Iāve been fucking other guys and lying to him about it (which I havenāt been. I donāt even have sex with a bunch of random guys I like getting to know someone before getting on that level). It hurts to know that someone paints the wrong image of u and no matter what u tell them they donāt care to listen.. it hurts me and I cry thinking about because thatās not who I am. Howās

Sorry not sure why the pic is like that & also thanks for everyoneās advice from before!
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