How do I confront her?

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Ok my niece is 10 and my little sister (17) just sent a screenshot to my phone from my nieces Instagram messages between her and a little boy who I guess is supposed to be her boyfriend. To make it worse the little boy lives on the next street over from my moms (her grandma.)
 
(My nieces mom (My oldest sister) passed away three years ago and now we are all working to be that motherly figure in my nieces and nephews life)
How do I confront her about the message? How do I punish her? I am just so disappointed.
My first thought was to attempt to kick her head off her shoulders since she wants to give head so badly. WHAT DOES A 10 YEAR OLD KNOW ABOUT GIVING HEAD?! I know I can’t take that approach but I need advice ladies because right now I want to hop in my car, drive to my moms, and kick her little ass 🤦🏽‍♀️
This is my oldest niece so I hold her near and dear to my heart. And I just got her her very own iPhone at the start of this school year. Disappointed is an understatement. This is literally my first “baby girl.”

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Take EVERYTHING AWAY! cellphones.wifi.instagram. make sure your windows are locked shut!
So young, its sad :(

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Oh I would be livid lol you should speak to whoever is in charge of her and also contact her “boyfriends” parents. No 10 year old should be talking like that, oh my Lord.

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Youre 10 yr old niece doesnt need an instagram then 😱 hell no, get her one of those family phones with no data that she can only call or text 5 people you pick

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Sit down and have a talk with her. Be very direct, open and honest. That way she’ll feel comfortable talking to you when these type of situation arises.

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Oh my goodness, that is so scary for someone so young to be talking like that.. I can’t imagine how you must feel. I’d talk to her about it openly. Express how that is not appropriate and you want to understand why she’s behaving this way. That you know that’s not how she is. Just try to let her open up to you. When I didn’t have my mom around, I pushed everyone away and didn’t want to talk to anyone. My nana was the only one that could get through to me because she was always honest and open with me, no matter what

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I am not a mom or an expert in child education but I wouldn't necessarily punish her, instead try to talk to her about it first. If I'm your niece and you're confronting me, I'd want to be comfortable talking to you about it. If I'm being scolded by that action I would feel so ashamed and lose all trust in you. I do think that this should not be happening but there's gotta be a reason why shes doing that. Maybe pull her aside saying you need to have a talk and just calmly tell her that you just want her to be safe and educate her and go from there? Maybe I'm sounding too optimistic here thinking that there wont be any further drama but hope it goes well!

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She doesn't even need social media. Contact the boys parents. And ground your niece. She's acting out probably due to the fact that she lost her mother and is trying to seek affection from just anybody in anyway she can. You will need to sit down and have a talk with her and put parental controls on her phone as well but honestly she is too young for social media.

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I would have a long good talk with her, about the kind of person she wants to be, respect for herself etc, and then spend as much time with her as possible and take away all social media which she’s way too young to be on anyway.

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Same as what everyone else said. Also, if she is going to keep the phone for whatever reason, there are ways to make the settings so that every text she receives so do you. Even if all her social media is taken away and her internet access is gone, she can still text but it will be immediately monitored.

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Hell no march over to that boys house and tell his parents this is how we end up with 12 and 13 year olds that are pregnant 🙅🏻‍♀️🙅🏻‍♀️🙅🏻‍♀️ 
As for her delete all social media and make her turn in her phone to you every night at 9 pm (my parents did this with me) block that little turds phone number as well I mean through the phone agency not just on iPhone... if you need to have them separated and put into other class rooms
As for her I would scream or yell I would just be really firm make her understand that sex is an adult decision and she is no where near that. If she has already started her period make her 100% aware that her body is capable of producing a baby that she is not ready for ANYTIME soon.

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