Hey there!

My fiance and I are both depressed and Im not really sure what to call it, but I want to try to create positive self images of ourselves, together. Does that make sense?

He always says he's not smart, he's too messy, too lazy, he doesn't take good enough care of me, etc. None of that's true! He does have faults, like us all, but he's a great person and he is smart and loving, and he deserves to see himself the way I see him.

On the other hand Im so upset about my weight. I used to be 130lbs and really strong, and now I'm 220lbs.. I feel so fat and ugly and weak. I feel like I don't deserve a good fiance, I feel worthless, I feel like my firends all abandoned me because I'm gross. My depression has influenced my bad hygiene and bad time management. Not to mention my grades are a struggle to keep up!

I don't love myself and I know he doesn't love himself and I know we should.

So what are some things we can sit down and do once or twice a week to help create a positive self image? And what's some positive self talk rituals we can do?

Thanks for your input!