Hello,

Have been married for 1.5 years. Husband has difficulty “performing” in the bedroom (can’t keep us an erection). I don’t get much satisfaction from being intimate with him, but hasn’t said anything to him yet. Just find this uncomfortable to bring it up.

recently a mail can in with a male masterbator in it - husband ordered it for himself and didn’t tell me anything. When I asked him he said it’s for the “semen test” he needs to do (we are getting things checkout for ttcing) and he can’t get it up with his hand and he wasn’t planning on to tell me about this masterbator as it’s private.

I am hurt that he didn’t tell me about it/ didn’t discuss if there was any issues in the bedroom.

and feels that it’s wrong to keep it secret etc. He is pissed because it’s no big deal. Am I over reacting? Is this normal for men to use toys for them only and not tell their spouses? What you ladies think? This is both of our 2nd marriages. I am feeling lost. Thanks for your inputs!