“It must have been so easy for you”

Megan

We just announced our rainbow pregnancy last week at 21 weeks, and included references to our “rainbow” baby in all our announcements. While I’m so excited to meet this little girl, I’ve really been struggling through this pregnancy after loosing our first pregnancy at 11 weeks. I don’t wear eye make up to doctors appointments, I make my husband and I take one car to the appointments... all “just in case.” And I never for one second feel like baby girl and I are in a “safe point” in the pregnancy, despite all tests coming back very good.

I was at a wedding this weekend and a friend came up to me to congratulate me. She was very drunk and trying to be nice, but just kept saying “oh you guys just bought your house last year this must have been so easy for you.” She must have said “easy for you” 10x throughout the conversation. Honestly, I think she was just preparing herself as someone who I know wants to be in my shoes eventually (but is not trying) and attempting to reassure herself that it would in fact be “easy.” It wasn’t the time or place to correct her, but those words still sting.

Anyways, just needed to vent and to say the things I wish I could have said if it was the time or place to do so, and I know you ladies get it.