Failing Marriage

My marriage has been going downhill for a very long time. I don’t feel wanted or cared for, he doesn’t feel wanted or cared for. We’ve grown into two separate adults. He’s passionate about politics, I hate politics. I am a hippie, he doesn’t necessarily understand my ways of thinking. We’ve both cheated over the years.

Quite frankly, we don’t like each other anymore. I’ve never loved someone like I do him, though. I truly care about making him happy and being a good wife. I am the only one who manages the kids (doctor/dentist/cardiology appointments) and the household (cooking/cleaning) but yet I never feel “enough.” I’ve grown numb to just not being “it” for him, but lately I keep imagining a life where I’m appreciated and cared about. And I’m sure he could make his own post about wanting a woman more similar to his wants and needs, couldn’t we all.

All of this to get to the point of our girls. I have a son through a previous relationship that is in and out of court and quite mentally exhausting. Is it worth it to separate and risk another complicated parenting plan or just stick it out until the girls are older? (They are currently 3 and 5).