We have been married for one and a half year and expecting our first child. We spoke for a few months before getting married, wasn't a love marriage neither an arranged. I live with in laws, though he has a own house, which we were suppose to move into but he keeps putting it off.

When I got pregnant I asked if we should move now as we would need more space, but it turned into a fight that how his parents should enjoy their grandchild and how I couldn't go meet my family who live cross continents for more than 2 months 😏 later with him saying that he is going to sell the house and I could do whatever with the money to end the conversation. I was more like blackmail. I was so upset than. Pregnant and emotional I cried my eyes out.

I spoke to him later again when he was a bit calm and he said he doesn't have the finances to renovate and live there, which I understood.

He told me to pass my exam and start working and than we'll move.

And now when I have passed my exam and am looking for a job, he again doesn't want to talk about it!

I put sooo much pressure on my sick-pucking-miserable pregnant self to pass that stupid £5000 exam. And We are still there! The planning permission expires this march and we don't even have a map! He ignores me whenever I talk about it.

And keeps telling me to find a job near where the inlaws are located 😡 obviously I am not 🙄 But he keeps telling me which is annoying me quite a lot.

I suffer from panic symptoms and anxiety disorder and being pregnant makes it harder to cope. I feel too anxious living with the in laws. And don't get enough me time. I am always obliged. Sadly for him anxiety has no deeper meaning, and I don't have energy to explain it to him again and see the same results after a day or so.

whenever I think the communication gap we have is bridging, it comes back more evidently. I don't know if its me who expects more or i don't know what should I do. I just get clueless and blank as to how to handle him. How much do i push him? These conversations are a big deal for me because of my anxiety. It's not that he doesn't know what I want, but I just don't know how to deal with this!

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